Kai Cole wrote a letter blasting her ex-husband, Joss Whedon. Cole writes:
There were times in our relationship that I was uncomfortable with the attention Joss paid other women. He always had a lot of female friends, but he told me it was because his mother raised him as a feminist, so he just liked women better. He said he admired and respected females, he didn’t lust after them. I believed him and trusted him. On the set of “Buffy,” Joss decided to have his first secret affair.
Fifteen years later, when he was done with our marriage and finally ready to tell the truth, he wrote me, “When I was running ‘Buffy,’ I was surrounded by beautiful, needy, aggressive young women. It felt like I had a disease, like something from a Greek myth. Suddenly I am a powerful producer and the world is laid out at my feet and I can’t touch it.” But he did touch it. He said he understood, “I would have to lie — or conceal some part of the truth — for the rest of my life,” but he did it anyway, hoping that first affair, “would be ENOUGH, that THEN we could move on and outlast it.”
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I think relationships bring out the best and the worst from people. The only reason I'm commenting on it is because it's Buffy related, and it bears some relevance to my previous posts about the irrationality of love, but mostly it gives us some insights into what went on behind the scenes of Buffy the Vampire Slayer. It's tough to comment on people's personal lives, especially when it comes to relationships.
Having your heart broken sucks, but I'd hardly call cheaters the scum of the earth. If you had asked me when I was younger about cheating, I would have said that cheaters are the worst. Now as an adult, I understand that it happens. Relationships are difficult. They're not always perfect. We're flawed people. We make mistakes. Hollywood is a very tempting place to work in. Of course, these aren't excuses, but as the say goes "shit happens." I'm sure it's way more complicated than the way I'm presenting it.