Celebrating my aunt’s 50th wedding anniversary in Las Palmas - Gran Canaria where they live. It’s been the sweetest and most emotional event and such a beautiful example of a solid relationship that has truly stood the test of time!
When I got married a received some sound advice from my cousin, that no matter what, never go to bed angry/annoyed with each other. Always resolve, talk, argue your issues before falling asleep. It makes a big difference when followed through.
I often say to newly weds that marriage isn’t easy “it’s work in progress!” It takes compromise, adjustments, mutual understanding, arguing, disagreeing, agreeing, listening and accepting. Nothing in life comes easy as easy can be quite boring!
I have celebrated 10years of marriage and it’s been an amazing journey. Lots more to explore...
Simply put, Americans can’t afford to miss paychecks because Congress has forgotten they’re supposed to be working for the people and not just for themselves.
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This fine ass man right here, (yeah I know!) had my back today like a mofo! I needed some solo/Goddess-connecting time, like a long stretch of it. Man! I was able to do yoga for an hour, meditate for 30 and write for another 30, then i walked into the kitchen for a full brunch spread! He’s still chillin with little man while I do some work in the room. I am so grateful for where we are in our relationship, especially remembering how far we’ve come. Thank you @joshuarlamont for all the hard work you’ve put in with me to get things right and moving! Now to take our son to @intoactionus for some #art & #activism 🙏🏼😘❤️ #hesmyfave#husbandmaterial#weputinwork
I was a novice in the relationship. There were things I should have done, known but I didn’t. I wasn’t experienced with my own emotions to express them to my lover. I planned to enjoy her company and see were it went. I got comfortable with the relationship and when hard times came around I didn’t know how to react. I had a partner who thought I had all the answers. A partner that didn’t have the answers but depended on me to find one. Progress was hard fought won and easily lost when faced with new challenges. We both reverted back to instinctual behavior that were selfish. Growth and development of the relationship was lacking. A complete breakdown of communication resulted in time lost in silence. Precious time to make up, to move forward, to heal, to progress. When reality called, a makeshift compromise was reached that lacked a proper resolution. Time would pass and we would revisit the same issues that weren’t resolved, frequently. My go to was to run, to get away and get a clear head. Hers was to face it head on with no idea on how to reach a solution but get it fixed before sleep. Contrasting methods that clashed with each other’s behaviors. Increasing the gap between each other. I thought if I was able to remove the emotion and just think objectively I could find a solution. If I stayed and emotions remained high, I would witness her most unflattering side. A side that was head strong, unrelenting, and gave no mercy or shelter. With the threat of leaving, her ferocious behavior would be at bay. A complete surrender on her side to not risk losing me. But what did that get us? A compromise, a solution? No. A lack of progress because we both weren’t able work together with a clear head to tackle the problem at hand. An incomplete resolution that couldn’t solve problems in the future. A vicious cycle that repeated failed mindsets, behaviors and ultimately no solution to problems. #grandcentralstation#relationshipproblems#relationships#conflict#agruments#fight#emotions#communication#communicationiskey#partner#lovers#selfish#solution#growth#mindset#compromise#time#silence#novice#instict#ferocious#vicious#goto#run#train
There is a story:
"To be fair, you can tell me what you think of me," she's offered. "I didn't mean to offend you. I was just making a few observations."
"How could I possibly know enough about you to make a proper judgment?" Her tone was harsher than she'd anticipated. "You've taken a stranger into your home without so much as a second thought and offered everything but your bed. Crazy comes to mind. Suicidal maybe."
She's leaned forward in her chair, readying her defenses. "Excuse me?"
"I don't mean to sound ungrateful here but please remember that you don't know me. I appreciate all that you've done but that doesn't entitle you to judge me."
"I wasn't judging you", she bit back. "But maybe you're right. I don't think I thought this through at all."
People think I am strong. I am not strong. There is a difference between a strong person and a stubborn person who just won't put her sword down. I am the latter. Again and again and again... pick the sword up, pick the sword up, pick the sword up...
Of course, the reader might argue that I was as stubborn in my viewpoint as they were in theirs. Yes, indeed, but I was right and they were wrong and that made the difference.
Ignorance is my refusal to think outside the box of my fears.
Compromise where you can. Where you can't, don't. Even if everyone is telling you that something wrong is something right. Even if the whole world is telling you to move, it is your duty to plant yourself like a tree, look them in the eye, and say 'No, you move'.
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The company recommends that you check your credit card statements and alert your bank to any irregular charges which will help you initiate a chargeback. You can contact the OnePlus support team if you need further assistance.
OnePlus is looking into providing a year of free credit monitoring for affected users. This will automatically monitor your card for any shady transactions.