Q: I was extremely attached to my spouse's family and I want to continue the relationship with them. What should I do?
A: It is very hard to let go of family members you have come to love. But in the end, it is not viable to maintain the same kind of connection to in-laws that you had while you were married You may pursue any relationship you and your ex-in-laws may wish post-divorce; there are no rules governing this sort of thing. Nonetheless, after the divorce, you will probably have to celebrate Christmas or other holidays in new ways.
Sometimes people hold on to extended families in an unconscious effort to stay in touch with their ex. They simply are not ready to let go, even though that would be the healthiest thing to do.
Under the best of circumstances, you can, of course, maintain a positive relationship with your ex's family. And, if you have children, you should certainly encourage them to continue to visit grandparents.
when i climb out your windows at night and you awaken,
eyes laden with sleep and voice still husky
you ask me why i can't just let it go?
darling how do i answer this?
how do I tell you that i am lassoed by the night?
that it was my first love before all others.
when i would lie awake with the stars,
my neurones no less than exploding galaxies in my head, the aftershocks reverberating through my jaw wrenching tears and possibly stardust from my eyes
when comfort seemed like a far away concept,
further than the space explorers that i dreamed up to distract myself,
when i was truly all alone,
the frigid vacuum of space would wrap itself around my spine and it would exhale it's pain from the centuries of existence and there we would lie, breaths intermingling as we shared our solitary griefs.
i made friends in these unlikely places and i would slip and slide over the Andromeda, leaping onto the dangerous edge of Orion,
fighting invisible enemies to keep my friends from slipping away as the wretched sun arose from its slumber,
its rays spreading like ink on blotting paper and it would terrify me because loneliness always seems less alive in the dead of the night.
so why do i slip away you ask?
because the night is lonely
and so am i;
and so i shall be till the end of time itself.
honey, i was carved from a chunk of sky and i fell gracelessly into this life.
i carry the stories of all the worlds I've seen in a orb i wear around my neck and
i am doomed to witness the delicate passage of souls from this wretched chunk of rock that i am banished to forever,
doomed to feel every insane cruelty in all corners of this globe like a whip on my back, to hold the crimes of humanity on my shoulders and breathe effortlessly.
i was carved from the sky and i have its ageing lines engraved onto my soul, it's fingerprints pressed onto the folds on my brain in patterns no one else can interpret and
this is why i crave the touch of the night for it understands love and loss like no other and thus
so do i.
________ive seen too much for such a short life.
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