Hey guys! So I went through a pretty devastating breakup about 2 months ago. I want to share this because breakups are difficult in general and can be harder with a mental illness. I want to say that it is important to respect yourself and hold on to your dignity as well as respect the other person. 🔷️ The first few weeks, I felt a gripping fear of being alone and being "left" and that is when it dawned on me that I suffer from abandonment issues. Add that to the anxiety and depression and it was a worldwind of emotions and internal chaos. However, even though I think about the relationship and the breakup almost every day, I am doing better each day. I want to share some tips to help through the process:
1✔ Block the person on social media, phone number and anything else. This is for you, not as an insult to the other person. It is extremely difficult in general after a breakup when you wait for that text or phone call that never comes.
2✅ Try speaking to a professional. I see a therapist regularly but since the breakup, I have started going more often because I know it is something that has a positive effect on me.
3✔ Meditate. I began meditating regularly when the breakup happened and with consistency and time, it has helped calm my mind.
4✅ Do things that provide you with a sense of accomplishment.
5✔ Help others. Starting this Instagram account and fully committing to putting all of me on the table for all of you in the hopes that I can help you, has helped me immensely each and every day in getting through this time.
6✅ Lean on a couple of friends. Do not talk to too many people about it because the majority of people can unknowingly make you feel worse by discretely sharing their own fears and desires. I have a few great people in my life that even though it's been 2 months, I can still text them and say "I'm having a tough day, can you help?" and they help without giving it a second thought. 🔷️ I'm here with you guys every step of the way during this journey we call life. 🔶️ #mentalhealth#mentalillness#mentalhealthawareness#tryingtochangetheworld#breakups#sadness#happy#IDONTMIND#icare#relationships#men#women#empathy#life
If I leave laundry on the bed Coco will always lay in the middle, same with if I lay out my outfit for after I shower. But what does she do when I have both in separate piles? Pull one closer so she can kind of lay on both. Guess I will always smell like dog (and coffee)! #cocopuffdog#ismelllikedog#idontmind#hatelaundryday
Last month, actor Chris Wood, who plays Mon-El on The CW’s Supergirl, did a mental health campaign, "I Don't Mind" to help put a stop to the stigma around mental illnesses. I got one of the t-shirts. Today another package arrived - with another t-shirt, this one signed by Melissa Benoist, who plays Supergirl. No note, no explanation. Not sure why I got it, but it’s pretty cool. #idontmind#supergirl#nicesurprise#littlethings
Had a great interview over the phone for a new book coming out next year! The book is entitled, "Early Homecoming" and it is about LDS missionaries who came home early due to physical or mental health, loss of faith, worthiness issues, etc. I love being able to share my story! Every time I do, it helps me to accept the past and move forward. .
Yes, my room is messy, but I wasn't going to clean it just for a photo. Welcome to my mess💚
My momma’s lamb soup with a salad 😍😍 for years I thought I wasn’t worth more than my kids’ leftover, rejected, half eaten food. And I think a lot of moms find themselves in that position. But even if there are little hands reaching for your soup (yay for influencing little minds and tastebuds) you ARE worth the little extra time it takes to make yourself a beautiful meal which will not only fill your belly, but your heart and soul with all that self love you’re pouring into yourself. You ARE worth the 10 minutes it takes to SIT and eat a meal. The children will survive, I promise. It doesn’t have to extravagant. It can be as simple as heating up some soup and making a salad from the massive batch of hard boiled eggs, salad mix, and cucumbers. You are worth so much more than your kids rejected leftovers. #selflove#healthjourney#momlife#grabbylittlehands#idontmind#thanksmom#freethesugaraddict#ketogenicdiet#ketosis#eatfattoburnfat
"For awhile I was really focussed on grand landscape views. The payoff and reward for the end of a sweat and dirt filled hike. I still am. There's always a need to remind yourself how small we are in the world. A view with a not-so-subtle reminder that the universe will work itself out regardless of what choices you make in your general daily stressors.
But lately I have been fascinated with the complete opposite. The fact that there is so much complexities in the smallest of details. Like the musical patterns of the little waves gently crashing into the shore. The individual shapes and designs each waterdrop makes as it gets pushed away from the sea for a moment. Or the mirrored emotions of the sky in the puddles beneath my toes.
Each of these little details add up to create a grand beautiful image of the earth. We are all part of that image. We all have distinct characteristics that are needed to make this world go around. We all have a meaning to our soul- we just need to find it. ✌❤🌲."
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Am I worth less than others? I know other people have a more interesting life and much more followers than me. Would that be a reason to be worth less? I don't think so.
This acc is the story behind me, only me, not fake.
I don't mind to say I've depressions, suicidal thoughts and an eating disorder. @christophrwood
@melissabenoist @edwardschmit -
I'm not ashamed to show you my worse drawings or pictures or bad lyrics. I'm not really talented, but as each of us, I'm unique. And it doesn't matter if I'm famous or have famous/thousands of followers. To support and help other people, each of us have the talent. The question is are you willed to help?
I'm proud of how I walk my path. And I'm proud of likes from @grantgust @justinbaldoni @idontmind @shethority @maisiersellers because it shows me the humanity from my big stars in my little world.
Btw it's easy to like something --> takes a sec, but if you're reading the text and left a comment (which should belong to the text 🤔), you show me you're willing to take your time to get to know me. -
I'm not mad at anyone who doesn't like my acc. Some of you're enough to make me believe in the good of humans.
So a BIG THANK YOU for reading and supporting, following, commenting and liking!
off with the BAND-AIDS
The power that words and emotions hold when you don’t allow yourself to work through them is a force like no other. It’s almost too easy to slap band-aids on open wounds, not giving them the proper care that they need in order to heal.
So there they remain, open, sore, and with an increasing amount of pain, but as long as you keep those temporary fixes available to you, you may not find any reason to sit with it any longer - out of sight out of mind, right?
No, not even a little bit. More thoughts on this, the disappearance of my voice (medically and emotionally speaking), and the emotions it left in the wake of it all, on the blog 👉🏼 link in bio #morethanlyme | snap by @adammckibben
@idontmind #idontmind sharing my experience, strength (and weakness) and hope about my mental illness.
I was diagnosed with depression at the age of 12 and was hospitalized twice around the same time. There was family therapy and "family meetings" prior to my parents' divorce when I was 7, followed by a personal school counselor when I was 8 and 9, followed by a slew of psychotherapists until I was 13.
My illness went into "remission" from age 14 through 27. I use quotation marks because, in hindsight, I was merely masking the depression with alcohol. Suffice to say, I've been sad a long time.
Today, I am in Alcoholics Anonymous and I have a sponsor and the best therapist I've ever had. I have the right medications and a supportive father, in recovery himself 3 years. I am a hopeful mental health advocate and a hopeful volunteer for @namipbc (National Alliance on Mental Illness).