PASSION - I often think about if I have enough passion in my life? I’m passionate about food. I’m a passionate creative. I’m passionate and committed in delivering content which talks for the brands I work with. I don’t do things half’s and the day I loose my authenticity someone please shoot me. I serve it straight up, open hearted and fall in love every day. Fall in love with dishes, concepts, people spirits... and with myself. ⠀
This post itself starts to open the self criticism box... yet I’m flipping in shut. It’s not about what I’m doing wrong. It’s about what I could be doing DIFFERENT. Each time I slow down enough to actually ACKNOWLEDGE myself I try to follow with these words “how can I own this satisfaction and serve people more?” ⠀
Trips like my recent to India shake up deeper stuff in me (obviously). The cobwebs feel like a distant memory, a recognised goodbye to the stories weighing me down and bon-voyage to self pity. ⠀
Words are easy. Being on the court IN ACTION is where the juiciness begins. It’s also the part where you reconnect with the past, the uninvited parts of ourselves we thought we had said laters to. We’re creatures of habit. The old stuff always returns, AND you know what’s awesome when it does? We know it that little bit better.⠀
Since my nans death, I’m taking on some old stuff I thought I’d worked on. Comfortable? No. Familiar? Yes. A step in the right direction? Abso-fucking-lutely!!
“So everyone who acknowledges me before men, I also will acknowledge before my Father who is in heaven, but whoever denies me before men, I also will deny before my Father who is in heaven.”
Matthew 10:32-33 ESV
I remember primary school days, I never wanted to acknowledge that I was Nigerian. We used to get cussed by the Jamaican kids so I stepped back from identifying with my people. It all changed in secondary school though as I became confident in identifying with my people regardless of the good or bad associated with bearing the name.
Similarly, and in a greater way, Jesus says that we need to acknowledge [declare, live out our allegiance to Jesus] Him before men, here on this Earth. Despite the cost, and all the insults that are hurled at those who follow the Lord Jesus. In the end, acknowledging Him even to the point of death is worth it, because in light of eternity, you will be acknowledged before the Father in Heaven. Today, a few people took that step at church in being baptised! What will you acknowledge? Your nationality, ethnicity, family? In all that, acknowledge the One who really counts.
My thoughts today on *CONNECTION & CONTRIBUTION* 🖤👇🏻 _______________________________________________________
What if... What if your life accomplishments were namely for the success of another person instead of your own?
What if you surrender years of your life for the sake of that person’s life message?
They say that it’s an honorable thing—to live for others. I believe that’s true. But I am also convinced that there is a God-given desire to be known, found worthy and acknowledged for what YOU bring to the world.
I have struggled with this fact for quite some time now, wondering if perhaps it was pride, or insecurity, or an unhealthy desire. Isn’t it enough to know that my company was behind the success of a best-selling book even if the world doesn’t?
No. It’s not enough for me.
If it was, then why does significance so important to me?
Then I realized that CONNECTION and CONTRIBUTION are the most fulfilling aspects of my work. I want to be connected to those I’m working with and I want to know that what I’m doing is making a difference—that I have contributed well. When one or both aspects are missing in my work, I don’t feel satisfied. This happens to be the case quite often when a book project is over, the author is up and running, and that person no longer needs me.
I crave acknowledgement for what I’ve done. In a sense, it’s my version of what Brene Brown calls, “belonging.” It’s the attributes of my personality that need to be engaged and fulfilled. And to bring this about it means that I must put more time into my own journey, my own writing, my own personal success.
As King David once said, “If your hands are skilled, you will serve before kings.” That is my desire—deeper than helping others, I want to be known and acknowledged for me.
Life is all about your mindset. I didn't believe this at first. It takes a while to manifest.
I looked outwards for love and in the end became used goods. Due to my self worth I had been lying to myself for years.
First of all I had to stop dwelling on what happend to me. Realise that is something that made me as strong as I am today.
My strength is what has gotten me this far without dabbling in drugs and or contributing to things that would other wise result in me going to jail and or ending up in a box.
I'm damaged goods But I have the strength to heal the wounded and for that I'm greatful. See abuse /trauma can make you 1 of 2 things.
It can break you and make you a victim or it can thrust you into being a worrior and helping for the greater good.
I still have a long way to go. But with knowledge of myself and the fight I have gave to get me this far. It is all worth it Well as long as I DON'T GIVE UP.
So everyday I will push to better myself. Be stronger for the others who are broken. In the hope that one day I will be abil to be a support for you to rise and better yourself. Because the world is in need of healers. Much love tee.
How do you feel about anger? 🙉🙈 When you're angry, do you act upon that anger? Get upset at yourself for being angry? Or, do you try to work through it and use that energy for something positive? 🐣
I react differently towards anger, depending on the day- sometimes I'm angry and can easily react without thinking about anything, often leading to a bigger fight than necessary. 🌶🌶Sometimes, I can take a step back and breathe, thinking about how I'm going to bring ease to this emotion instead of immidietely acting upon it. .
I know we often think of anger as a bad thing- but it's an emotion, just like happiness or sadness or love, they're all similar! We know we shouldn't label food as "good" or "bad" but we often label emotions. 🍋🍖🍕 I want to try to work on not getting mad at my anger. Letting it come and go, acknowledging it but not bathing in it- realizing it's there, maybe trying to understand why it's present but knowing it's going to pass and that what I do with my anger is more important than being angry at my anger. 😁
Let yourself feel emotion; happy, sad, lonely- acknowledge them, feel them, and then try to work with them. 🙊🙊 .
What kind of emotions are you feeling right now? 🌞⛆
A few months back, i took a huge chance at Life with opportunity by accepting a Medical Assistant position. With this career move, i realized my dedication and integrity would be tested. Not only that, i also promised myself that i wouldn't give up, nor would i ever give anything less than 100% -- to every patient, and to my team.
At times things can be difficult, i admit. Extremely difficult. Times can become stressful without a doubt.
But there's ALWAYS a balance...
At times, you run across patients that have to continuously come for repeat appointments and you get to know them. You get to really know their stories...their families...their lives. You understand the importance of their health. These 'patients' become 'people', per say, and you get to smile with them. Talk with them. Understand them.
Its a great thing.
You hope they heal and get better, so they can continue living healthy. And when they do...sometimes they go that extra mile to let you know they feel the same way, and they appreciate the same things.
Its a great thing.
This truly couldn't have come at a better time.
Now its time for some hashtags.
Today was #psychologysaturday and it was so helpful. We spoke about about this past week, which reflecting on events in the week weren’t that great. We’ve been working on acknowledging your feelings and giving them the deserved attention that they need. Reflecting on the positives but also recognising why you feel those negative feelings. How helpful are they? What do they achieve? Do they bring value? What will you do with them now? Some really great questions I will continue to try and ask myself while processing situations and those feelings that naturally come along for the ride.
This past week I’ve had some negative feelings and thoughts around situations that happened to me when I was younger, and also events that arose in the past week. I’ll now go through and start to departmentalise these feelings and thoughts to help myself work through them and past them. This is not an easy process for me, however I know I’ll find it highly valuable to which it will become a necessity and ritual on a day to day basis. 🌈💕🌈
Back in the day. Me and three kids under 3.5. ⠀
Was I mad? No. In that it seemed like a good idea at the time. I was on a roll. ⠀
Because whilst it was desperately difficult with my first - and usually is - you do get the hang of it eventually and then I thought I could just apply parenting by numbers. ⠀
But - truth bomb - parenting by numbers doesn’t cut it. They are not the same. Each kid - frustratingly - becomes their own person. And the older they get the easier it does not get. It just changes...⠀
Different pleasures, different challenges. Slightly more sleep, slightly more demands. ⠀
Your body is given a rest and returns to its rightful owner (you) but your emotions are given the run around as you are called upon to become not just a (great) mother (and provider of essentials such as love, food and clean clothes) but also a (highly skilled) mediator, entertainer, teacher, telepathic mind reader and sympathetic ear. ⠀
It’s hard mamas - and today I am acknowledging you just in case no one else has (or forgot to). Particularly as it’s Friday and I know you’ve had a long week being the multitasking superwoman that I know you are. ⠀
I see you! I get you! I’m here with you! You are awesome 😍⠀
And just in case you’d thought my tag line (For Mamas Who Want More) meant more stuff, more skills or more roles - I want to remind you gently that for most of us it also means MORE RECOGNITION of what we are ALREADY doing so well. ⠀
Please tag any mamas who you would like to give a recognition supermama shout out to! 💛⠀
I never apologize for being me. I cannot help I'm someone that the next person doesn't like. I was put on this Earth to be unique and one of a kind, and I don't have to be who you want me to be. So if you don't like me, I don't care. There are plenty of being on this Earth you'll like one of them, eventually. A lot of people didn't like Jesus either, that didn't stop him from being who he was sent here to be.