Your dreams, your pains, your voice. None of them will shut up until they've taught you what you need to know!
They really don't. And I believe this is one of the biggest reasons why it's so difficult to grow from the places we're stuck. Grieving for old ways, letting go of what no longer helps us, and feeling that loss means a lot of shakiness, uncertainty, and fear. The mourning is necessary though for healing and wholeness.