“To me, defeat in anything is merely temporary, and its punishment is but an urge for me to exert greater effort to achieve my goal. Defeat simply tells me that something is wrong in my doing; it is a path leading to success and truth.”
We all get knocked down and experience moments where things go wrong. It is important to process your feelings about that failure, but you cannot dwell there. Failure is merely temporary and if you accept defeat then you stay knocked down instead of getting back up. You must accept defeat to be truly defeated.
The answer to your problems is within the problem itself. What is it you’re trying to do? Why weren’t you able to do it? Was it something that was within your power to control or was it outside of your control? What can you learn from this? When something goes wrong, if you’re willing to dive deep into the problem and be very honest with yourself, there is an answer for how you can work your way out of or around the problem.
If it feels like you are making the same mistake or failure repeatedly, you might not be learning the lesson in these failures. Even if you cannot control something bad happening to you, you can control your reaction to it. Don’t focus on what happened, focus on how you react to what happened. Fail forward and keep moving. Learn from every mistake. Defeat can educate and lead to the truth. Think of defeat as your teacher instead of as your enemy. But defeat itself is not an option unless you make it one. 👊🤜