Negative emotions can be incredibly motivating. Do you ever notice we don't take action until we've reached a breaking point? We don't start that side business until we are absolutely DONE with our current job. We don't go to therapy until our marriage is unraveling. We don't start a healthy lifestyle until we have a health scare. ⠀
Fear can be incredibly motivating. We work out because we're afraid to gain weight. We work on this side business because we're afraid of losing our job. We go to therapy because we're afraid of divorce. We people please because we're afraid of being alone. ⠀
Fear had its place in our lives when we were daily fighting for our lives. When the mammoth was approaching our cave, fear told us to run. ⠀
But now in the majority of our day to day lives, fear doesn't serve us. ⠀
Our lives our comfortable. We have grocery stores and a military and cars and protection from what used to daily threaten us. But our biology is still wired to fear so we fear being accepted, being loved, or worse-- being exposed for who we truly are...good thing is, even if we play out our greatest fears, we still will be alive. Our hearts will still beat and our eyes will still open. A mammoth won't kill us if someone didn't like us. ⠀
So how do we use our fear to motivate us to do hard things without getting burnt out? ⠀
How can we channel that fear into a more positive productive emotion? ⠀
For instance how can we start that side business because we love ourselves and believe we have more to offer the world than what our current job is offering?⠀
How can we move our bodies in a healthy loving way or take care of our relationships because we love the other person? ⠀
I think the fear is healthier as an indicator rather than a motivator. The fear lets us know where parts of our lives may not be aligned to our highest good, but I don't think fear is a long term motivator. We will burn out, get discouraged, and give up if we rely solely on the fear. ⠀
We have to reframe it from a place of love. Let our values and purpose motivate us. Acknowledge but release the fear.
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I've been in awe of the sunsets lately. I've been trying to make sure they get burned into my memory forever. I look at them and consciously think, "don't lose this, remember this beauty".
Last night, I realized I was doing myself a disservice by trying to not let the moment pass and dissolve.
By telling myself to not let it go, I'm also telling myself to not let it be. To not let the present BE the present. •
Rather than appreciating the beauty and standing in gratitude, I'm pulling myself to the future. And then remembering the past.
Part of what meditation has taught me is to be present. The future and the past will come and go as they please, but the present is all we have to live for.
If any of you men are feeling left out with the #metoo movement, please feel free to participate in the #iwill response - pledge to act positively when faced with a situation where a man is harrassing a woman, another man, a child...
#Iwill - speak out against harrassment, sexual or otherwise.
#Iwill - educate my sons to respect women.
#Iwill - discuss issues of male violence with my peers, friends or family.
There's a few ideas - to get the ball rolling.
It is the responsibility of men to stand up and acknowledge the failures of our communities, our society, and ourselves so that we can one day rebuild this broken trust. We have been conditioned by the systems of the patriarchy to be misogynists. We have to break the cycle.
Call out misogyny, call out racism, call out homophobia. Call out your friends and your family and your teachers. Do not be afraid, be brave and trust that you can make a difference.
Let's Go, guys
I’ve been wanting to jump on the “me too” bandwagon inspired by Alyssa Milano and kept pushing it back. Out of fear of not belonging. Of being out of place. And then I got inspired by all the beautiful and courageous women sharing their stories. Heartfelt, terrible stories that resonated with me and have deeply shaken me up.
I’ve never been assaulted or raped. This is not my story. But I’ve also been a victim of men’s ego and proud behaviour. 💔
When I turned 18 I had never had a boyfriend or really interested guys before. I was more of a loner or a weirdo and going into college was a completely new and exciting experience for me. I started partying and my circle revolved mostly around rugby players living in my apartments block. I considered them my mates and felt like I belonged. I could not have been more wrong. I then interned in those clubs for the next few years and the same thing happened over and over.
I would receive messages from guys already in a relationship trying to hook up with me because of course I was asking for it. Why else would I be working there ?
Every night out as I was either crossing paths with them or partying with my own friends, they would grab my ass.
Still to this day, I thought maybe I dressed in a way that encouraged it or came across as “easy” and was embarrassed. I started dressing like a tomboy so I would be one of the boys and so they wouldn’t try to get with me. It got to a point where I told my friends and family I wasn’t “touchy-feely” and couldn’t bear people touching me. No hugging, hand holding, signs of affection whatsoever. I would jump at the smallest contact. I thought this would protect me. It didn’t.
I also went through some difficult times and was dealing with it by getting drunk on the weekends- not the smartest obviously but it helped clear my mind. Thing is, I just wanted to be loved or for someone to care. I had no relationship experience and I didn’t know how to say no. I got taken advantage of.
Other times, they would hit on me while making me know that they already had girlfriends. Like I wasn’t good enough to be respected, just to be screwed over and forgotten.
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Here's a pic of one of my latest piece of art in a better definition.
I started working on this one a few months ago...I had a few moments that I wanted to give up on this one.. but decided to take it slowly. With a good mental support of a friend, who's also... I may say -a soulmate of mine.
It's not finished , but I wanted to share it again, with a few words. Without lowering the appreciation that I have for it. I like it. I like experinces I've gone through while drawing it. The moments I've had with the pen and the great music I was listening to in the backgroud. I appreciate being able to enjoy all these beautiful moments.
Technically, I see lots of "mistakes", things that could have been drawn "better". And that's great! It's great that I'm able to judge my own work
And see HOW can I get better. That's the base for growing. Being aware. Being in #conciousness .
So I made something. Now it doesn't matter how good/bad it is by others opinions. I let go. It's out.
Shouldn't feel sorry for "being" not good enough. The main person I damage this way is myself.
There is and there isn't such a thing "good enough".
I like what I'm doing.
I'm getting better and I want to keep walking this path and that's what matters.
I do what I love
I start walking
The rest will follow.
Have a beautiful day world.
Expand your conscious with your relationships too. Whether is be a friendship, family related or romantic. Be conscious to the energies they are making you feel and what YOURE making others feel!
Be strong to speak what your heart truest feels! Speak with love ❤️✨