When you think about your future, you probably expect it to be bright, sparkly and shiny, right? I know. We all do. We think that we just need to make the right choices now – pick the right career, the good paying job, the caring partner and the perfect home. And if we do, then we will definitely be happy in the future, right? Well…NO, not really.
We all expect it to happen this way, but it never really does. According to Daniel Gilbert, a social psychologist and Harvard professor, we often expect future events to make us happier than they will. And even though our pasts should be enough to make us realize that our expectations are usually too high, we go on and do exactly the same – expect the future to be brighter than it can be.
It’s a mistake we keep making. And these high expectations can make us go to great lengths and jump through hoops expecting to find happiness on the other side. But, once we get there, we find just a small dose of excitement. As soon as that fades away, we are just as happy as we were before.
So…what should we do? Here’s my perspective: now that we know this is a mistake our brains keep making, we can choose to correct it. Whenever you find yourself dreaming and planning, thinking about how happy you will be when something happens, you can try to be a bit realistic. Nice events might make you a bit happier for a little while. But don’t spend your life chasing something like the holy grail of eternal happiness. Spend it working on the happiness you can experience right now!
Ok so I JUST took the plunge & 💵 part of my Halloween 👻 costume & I can hardly contain my EXCITEMENT!!! 🙌🏻 This is the 1ST year that I haven't had family 👨👩👧👦 themed costumes 👯planned out nearly a YEAR 🗓in advance! 😱 For those of you that know me- you have come expect a certain WOW 😱factor when it comes to my Halloween costumes- it's my 1️⃣ time a year to go ALL OUT, try NEW things, and EXPAND my knowledge as a designer 👩🎨. 🎃 🎃🎃🎃🎃🎃🎃🎃🎃🎃🎃🎃🎃Every year I try to outdo myself but it has become increasingly HARDER with 2️⃣ 👧🏻👦🏼, commuting 🚊 , Designing 🎨 FULL time, and now my 💄biz. I usually start MONTHS in advance! 😱 hopefully I can pull this ALL together in ⏰... it may NOT be total perfection this year... but SOMETIMES you just have to be OKAY👌 w/ OKAY @okaywithokay 😉- AND focus on the important things 😘- DO YOU buy🛒?, thrift 💸♻️?, make🦄? , or piece 🛠together your costumes?
Inner Creations from Teyuma this morning is a great secret that if everyone knew, the world would be a better place! Do you make the people around you guess what makes you happy. Tell a partner wow I love it when you do _______ . Or tell a boss I like working hard for you when _________. Remember our alignment and happiness comes first from ourselves everything else is a bonus! If people you are connecting with daily don't have to guess your day will be filled with bonuses how fun is that!!!!!
Again, I am here to discuss my views on disappointments.
Actually if I would say in other words, disappointments are nothing but the results of high expectations. Expectations can have from anyone or for anything, like we have few expectations from ourselves, from others. I think disappointments are nothing but just that others don't act the way we thought of and that cause disappointments. And sometimes we don't achieve what we thought of and that leads to disappointments.
I won't say not to expect, its a human nature but be careful with what you expect and from whom you are expecting. Put your best to achieve your expectations but don't burden your expectations on others, as later on that turns out our biggest disappointment. Keep high expectations but just from yourself and not from others and don't be upset if others don't act accordingly because we can't impose our expectations on others.
Just take the charge of your expectations and you will get what you actually want. But be careful with your own expectations, as it should not break you in any of the ways but if you don't reach for your own expectations, stop, breathe and start again.
People don't talk about it. You think it's a thing of the past. Like life was like for your grandma or something, but not you. You thought things are way different nowadays. They don't talk about getting older and slowly letting all the things you wanted go. You change your ambitions so that it seems like you are doing what you want. You convince yourself to act happy that way. You ignore how old you feel and how you feel more and more tired and worry that by the time you will be able to have children, you shouldn't because you are so fucking tired all the time. And your not supposed to nag, no you're not supposed to put pressure. You're supposed to be kind, nurturing and patient. So. You give up your dreams so you can be a better girlfriend, a better wife, a better lover, a better soulmate. Your shrink tells you that it's your choice, if you really wanted different things, why don't you go and do them. And yet you are supposed to be working on being a better partner and you are so fucking worried about money all the time that you would rather give up your dreams than make the one you love give up their dreams. And you are jealous and resentful of the one you love even though you are happy for them. You can give up getting proposed to, you can give up the fantasy of romance, you can give up having a real ring. You can give up the idea of a wedding, you can give up the dream of a house. You can wait and wait until your ovaries shrivel up and then give up having a family of your own. You can stay in a shitty end of a shitty big town that you've always hated and get fucked over by shitty people while you keep trying to claw your way out of the shitpile and get ahead somewhere...someday.
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