“Blessed are they that mourn” Matthew 5:4
I remember the morning of Emmett’s viewing sobbing in my mother’s arms. I said, “I can’t do this mom. I can’t have another person walk in here and hug me—I can’t keep pretending I have anything left to give—I can’t even stand it when they touch me. Today I just want to be left alone.” My wise mother held me close and said, “Ashlee . . . then don’t do it for you—do it for them. Hug them—not because you want to— but because they came to mourn. They lost something too—a brother, a son, a friend. Every person who knew him will never be the same. So let them in. Sometimes it will be for you—but most of the time you will have to do it for them. Comfort them.” A few things I have learned—since that day— about grief, loss, and mourning.
1. It is an individual journey . . . but nearly impossible to do alone.
2. Others might have lost similar to you, but they might handle it differently.
3. No one prepares you for how hard it is going to be and that it doesn’t truly ever end.
4. It is a road that never leads you back to who you once were . . . but a path that takes you to a new place—of who you can become.
5. Faith doesn’t take away the pain—it just helps you remember you are not doing it alone.
6. God will give you more than you can handle—but He will also give you a Savior . . . who will carry you through the days you cannot stand on your own.
Grief is impossible to put into words, and I have failed many times to describe the pain that one experiences in the midst of great loss. But one thing I do know something about—is that we can mourn with those who mourn...because we all need each other. Through the good times and the bad.
You are never ever alone.
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My dear loves,
I am feeling grief, sadness and uncertainty in the air today. My Guides are affirming what I am feeling, saying that many people are feeling a sense of LOSS. 💛
The holidays are a tricky time of year. They hold powerful cellular memory for us and bring up remembrances of times spent with loved ones who are no longer with us in physical form. 💛
It is also at the end of the calendar year, so we reflect on the difficulties and challenges faced throughout the year, the things that didn’t go as planned or the hopes and dreams of something new that didn’t materialize. 💛
Give space to your grief. Let it be honored, heard and felt. It’s ok if this is not your favorite time of year. You’re allowed to be sad if this is your truth. Maybe you’re tired of being alone or being broke. Widen your energy field to breathe with your grief. Give it the attention it needs so it can heal, so it can be composted into the foundation of who you are. It will always be a part of you but it doesn’t have to direct your life anymore. 💛
The “catch” is that you can’t go into the story of the grief, the whys, the hows, the will it ever change? You just have to BE with it. Let it be there. Be soft with it. It is hurting. Send it LOVE. Always send it Love. 💛
I’ve had several Energy Healing Sessions with clients recently to help them understand and clear their grief. Messages from loved ones or my guides come through as I clear the energy and bring forth guidance and information that helps them with the grieving process. Click the link in my bio for more information and to schedule a session. 💛
With much love,
P.S. I live 30 miles from the California fires. It has been quite intense to say the least. It is now the 4th largest fire in CA history. This may be what I am feeling today however, the holidays can be a difficult time for many. Please continue to pray that the fires end and that all people and animals be safe. Thank you. 💫🙏💫
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An update from our TCD workers after the floods in Nepal:
"In August, we struggled for our survival while also helping victims of floods. Some lost their relatives, and many villagers lost their lives. Villagers lack food and other basic necessities. Many cattle drowned and were swept away. There was great loss and sorrow. Villagers are still struggling for their shelter, food, and clothing. Children's books and other stationery items have also been soaked and damaged. Most of them don't have school supplies. After the flooding, we helped other NGOs with small relief distributions to help the victims. Even though we are struggling for survival, we are trying to reach neighboring villages to expand Transformational Community Development (TCD). Our great sympathy and encouragement to all who lost family members." To help villagers in Nepal rebuild and expand TCD, donate here: https://donatenow.networkforgood.org/ghni-np-dgvillage?code=Monthly%20Report%20-%20Blogs #worldwide#empower#GHNI#globalhope#report#teamwork#international#opportunity#provide#partner#aroundtheworld#donate#family#flood#Nepal#loss#love#community#children#village#nonprofit#help#school#supplies#update
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Hoy tomamos una decisión muy fuerte, eutanasia para nuestro perro Germán Shepard, Pistolero/Crispín/Pisquiquis/Pistoles, ya estaba muy malito y con mucho dolor. Hoy paso a ser un angelito canino que dese el cielo siguiera vigilando el rancho, los caballos y todos los otros animales. Y vivirá para siempre en nuestros corazones.
En una session de práctica de aprendizaje asistida con los caballos este perro me dio una gran lección.
El me enseñó que cuando yo estoy bien, presente y fuerte, todos los que me rodean también lo están. .
Vamos a extrañar mucho al Pistolero! En el video le da picadero a su mejor amigo el huero.
No pongan condolencias mejor pongan cómo los a impactado algun animal a ustedes.
This beautiful sugar maple was planted in memory of my mom, nanny Maureen. It's a fitting tribute as she gave light to everyone she met. We had a strange day today, Gabriel, out of the blue, asked for a picture of my Mom, he told me how much he missed her and we both had a good cry. Then he decided to walk around with her photo for hours. Keeping memories alive is so important. #mom#love#loss#memories#legacy#snow#sugarmaple#vermont
Life is beautifully uncertain.
Today, I stepped out of my house into a swirling white wonderland. My hair was all curly from sleeping, my winter coat is bright red... it felt magical 😍 Festive and bright, it felt like... Christmas.
This time last year, I could hardly hold a plank. My body was swollen, unable to properly fight the Lyme resting in my joints and tissues. By this time, I was being treated for it, which takes at least a month. My New Year wasn't great. It's hard to enjoy a toast when simply raising your glass would send waves of pain from your wrists to your chest.
I feared movement🙁
It wasn't until late March that I felt well enough to even walk into a gym. I tried going once, too early, got sick instead, immune system being shot and all. Recovery for Lyme: 2-6+ mon.
This summer was amazing. Lived with my boyfriend, worked 2 jobs, and deflated this body, while saving a few grand, which covered most of my past semester's expenses. While I lost weight, I gained a TON of financial savvy. Raised my credit score triple digits this year, woohoo 🙌
This fall was mixed. Was a part of a collegiate rowing team, living off campus, paying my own rent. Classes were going well. And then... loss. Like getting sucker punched right in the heart. I had spent the last year and a half overcoming depression (& more), only to feel the sweet, dark grasp of my old friend return, stronger than before.
Fortunately, I'm stronger, too. I've made huge leaps the last few weeks. I've my learned to embrace the tears, so I can better appreciate the smiles, like the one above. I'm a fighter.
The universe is working in my favor. I'm excited for 2018. Here I am, ready and willing to embrace the unknown.
Death is not the only reason to grieve for someone #grief#loss http://ow.ly/5vyJ30hbKNO
Reflections for 2017.
This year I've learnt a lot....
*There are people who think I'm beautiful and awesome, no makeup no adjustments. And I actually like myself. Currently down to 59kg which means I lost 10% of my total body weight.
*You can't make someone love you or be you friend and you can't get mad about that. Just because someone doesn't have the same feelings as you doesn't make them an arsehole. *Friends who tell you what a great amazing person you are and how they miss you whenever THEY need you to comfort them or talk to them because they are going through something and then repeatedly just ignore you whenever you are going through something are not your friends.
*If you are learning something new and aren't automatically great you are not a failure. Everyone learns in their own time. Ask for help.
*I enjoy being happy and a nice person, even if i get hurt. I'm not going to change that. I will always make the extra effort even if it means driving 700kms to be rejected or spending 2 months ordering the perfect present from America. I have no regrets. I tried. *Just because you do different things a different way or like different stuff doesn't mean everyone will be 100% supportive, but thats ok. Everyone has different opinions and tastes. And some people show support by making fun of you.
*And most importantly loving your life, your family and where you live means coming home is enjoyable. Work to live don't live to work. I have amazing intelligent and individual kids who drive me nuts but also make my day every day. They are good kids and i love them.
Thats me done #peaceoutrabbit#stuffivelearnt#newyear#2017#reflection#work#love#loss#friends#imok#justme#thewayiam
What a peculiar feeling it is to grow up, and to grow out; remaining the same but becoming new; outdoing yourself while letting yourself down; shifting and flowing but not budging; undoing and redoing yourself with every dawn, and falling apart with each dusk. How bittersweet is it to love, but not to be loved, and how manic is it to laugh at things you can no longer feel. How close are distant memories, and how far are near realities when you are detached.
You wander off, but the door is locked.
🤞🏻I’m gonna try to not make this a cheesy/typical “transformation Tuesday” post... These pictures are almost 8 years apart.
This really isn’t about a physical transformation this time. Although you can see a difference in my neck. 👊🏻 🖐🏻The picture on the left I am clearly completely hammered. I am not saying I don’t drink now because I do. But certainly not like I used to.
The picture on the left was just before my entire world would be turned upside down with the loss of my brother. Before my drinking would hit an all time high, even though my drug use had subsided. Before I would turn to food and anger and just overall not being a good person.
There’s SOOOOO much that has taken place since that picture on the left. ❤️But look at the right picture. Sure, some more wrinkles (hey, I’m pushing 40, just quit smoking almost a year ago after doing it for 20 years, and was the queen of tanning), but overall, I think just a HAPPIER version of me. Because that pic on the right is a D I F F E R E N T person. ❤️ I haven’t felt this happy since before we lost Chris. In fact, I’m not sure I’ve ever felt this happy unless I was intoxicated. Not even kidding. 🤷🏼♀️ Something changed in my ENTIRE BEING when I found Ketones. 🦄🔥 For reals. 🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻 ✅Sure, I had already found health, fitness and personal development, all of which got me started on being a better person. The best ME I could be. But this, this sealed the deal. 💋 ⚡️When your brain starts working and running like it was meant to all along, and your life starts literally falling into the exact place you K N O W it was meant to since the day you could even start dreaming of it...well, then that transformation picture becomes more than a physical transformation. ⚡️ 🔥🦄It’s an EVERYTHING transformation. And it feels fucking FANTASTIC!!! 🦄🔥 ❤️Happy Tuesday, peeps! Don’t be afraid to be the best version of Y O U!! It takes WORK but it’s so dang worth it ❤️