I’ve chased lean since 25 years old after having my son. That’s 15 years ago. So I started thinking about this idea I was chasing 🤔 I started thinking about why I haven’t achieved it, what I was doing or not doing to get in the way of reaching it, and most importantly why I made this something I desired. I realized that it was NEVER EVER what I wanted. It’s what the world wants for me. It’s what the world wants for all women. Holy cow, how is it that I just realized that now 🤦♀️💥This week. After all this time. What I do know is it is time to move on. It’s time to stop aiming for something I never wanted to begin with. What a waste. I’ve never really conformed to the world so why did I ever believe I had to in this area. It’s time for a change of mind. And body. For those who chase lean, it’s cool 😎 It’s just not for me. So I’m gonna be over here and grow some muscles the proper way and however they grow, they grow. I do not have the right to demand they shrink or elongate to look pretty to please the masses. They decide. I respect. What I do get to decide is to allow them to growth, give them rest, sleep and proper nutrition. I can wish they looked and developed differently but why? They are part of me and I choose the best version of me that is possible today. Just do yourself a favor today: love yourself. Every bit of you💗
P.S. Learning this low bar squat ain’t no joke 😱😂
I feel like this is a conversation I have often, that—despite all of the crazy, awesome, amazing BIG moments that happen in life (and we all have plenty of them)—it’s the little things and the little moments that make up a life. It’s the cups of coffee you make each other in the morning, the times where he did the dishes to help and you made his favorite dinner, the quiet days spent at the beach, the long conversations on road trips, or in the case of Wooden’s quote, the innumerable practice sessions and attention to minutiae that at the end of the day are what make it A LIFE. Whether we’re talking about relationships or championships, it’s attention to details and repetitive, intentional practice (in relationships, remembering to say thank you, knowing what battles to pick or let go, asking how each other are doing) that at the end of the day are the bedrock and mainstay of life. Without them, the big moments don’t happen. With them, the long stretches of time between the big moments that happen infrequently MEAN something. If we’re talking about fitness, the magically motivated days with PRs are few and far between, fed by the MANY days of putting the work in. In school and work, high achievements and recognition happen after hours of toiling outside the limelight. Don’t underestimate the power or importance of these little moments and small details, because at the end of the day, they ARE the bulk of your life, and they set you up for success. Don’t take them for granted. .
Don’t worry about being judged along the way, just make sure you have it end the way it needs to be.
Have so many of you worrying about your setbacks or lack of “it happening” and the whispers or snarky comments are bothering you, I personally love them. -
There is plenty of time left in the game. Lets focus
Another amazing post by @garyvee
We either get a win from our choices or we learn from them.
We either make choices consciously or subconsciously.
On and off the Comp floor
In the gym and outside the gym.
Choices that move us forward or hold us back!
What ever the action or decsion you make it was right at the time.
Its only win or lose if your unable take note of the habits, feelings and thoughts that led to the right choices and acknowledge the same process that led to the wrong choices and take the lesson.
Failing is part of the process!
Fear of judgement or not being enough or accepted is a natural reaction from the lower part of the brain. You are human first.
But this process is not entitled to own you.
When we acknowledge how the mind works we can let go of the excuses and work through the fear with purpose.
Train the reaction to be reponsive allowing room to make purposeful choices.
For years most humans have had to go through it Adversity, Judgemnet, Fear with not much to show from it than limiting beliefs, low self esteem and lack of self trust.
Is 2018 the year to acknowledge it seek support and awarness and Grow through it.
Because your worth it.
Worth it yes.
Oh my golly!!! BOOOOTY work!!!! The first set of moves were super tough when working my left side... between scoliosis and a bad SI joint.. as you can see.. down right painful 😂😳😂 Fact is... I can only get stronger if I do the tough work!!! So I’m glad I did it, FINISHED both rounds!
Day 2/80 was awesome✋🏻✋🏻
Studies in psychology have found that only 10% of our long term happiness is based upon the external world.
Crazy right?! 🤪
Everything else only counts for TEN percent?! Yup.
You know what that means?! WE are the other 90%
How we process the world determines how happy we’ll be.
You own it.
What does this mean for me today? Well, I’m not a lover of winter. It’s cold, dark, and long. I love warmth, sunshine, and sweat.
Winter is here whether I like it or not so I can spend my days miserable, complaining, and wishing for warmth or I can appreciate the peacefulness in the quiet, the beauty of the fresh snow, the slowness of time and the fact that maybe winter comes every year to slow me down. It makes me stop and reflect and look a little harder for things I love about this time of year. And it really really makes me appreciate the warmth even more when it is here.
What is the good that YOU can find in the day? If you look around you just might find it’s everywhere. .
This mornings sweaty selfie is brought to us by SelfLove. I slept through my first alarm (yes I have 3 alarms to get my ass up at 4am) didn’t go as hard or as long as I normally do at the gym but that’s okay. Reminder: Any workout is a good workout. I may not be burning a lot of calories or strengthening my muscles as much but I’m holding myself accountable and strengthening my habit, mindset and selflove. #getfit 💪 #selflove#mindsetmatters#fitgirlsguide#28dayjumpstart
FOCUS :: I could look back at this photo and remember how rainy and cold it had been but I don’t, I look at this and remember how much fun Jamesey and I had with great views like this on our doorstep.
This is all down to focus, people only see what they focus on. You can choose to focus on the good or the bad stuff...I know which one makes me happier.
With change comes challenge. Renewal. Fresh starts. Big questions. Doubts. Excitement. Fear. *
And breaking it down to come back bigger, stronger, better is all part of the process of change and improvement
Except for this. This isn’t cool — i found the first casualty of the move while unpacking. I’ll be ordering a replacement @team_neverquit mug ASAP!
There is no perfect time to start! When I first stared my first business I was nowhere near ready, but learnt along the way. If you wait for the stars to align you will be waiting your entire life. What have you got to lose?
Our journey in 2018 from startup to empire can be followed @startupempireoz
This GG right here y’all! She has a fire lit under her booty!! She said something tonight that I loved... she said she’s tired of being in jail... meaning her weight is holding her back from living her life fully... she fought through this whole workout... if I said 8-10 reps, she did 10... when something was hard, she this is tough, had a smile on her face, and NEVER missed a beat... when we talked about it during her workout, she would push harder... it was fuel... when a client gets here... with this kind of mindset... done with feeling like shit... done feeling weak... done with missing out on experiences and life...they reach their goals... we are doing modified mountain climbers here... and I took this video because I KNOW, in the near future, I’ll have another video of her doing them on the sliders 😏 and we will do a comparison post!! Love you sis!! And LIFE, we comin for ya!! #getoutoffatjail#winning#enjoythejourney#mindsetmatters
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What is one non-negotiable habit you have for yourself everyday? ✨Something that helps you get going on your day? ✨For me, it has been cultivating time for myself BEFORE my children get up.
I used to just wake up whenever the kids woke up, which was always early. I would stumble to the coffee maker among babies needing also to be changed or given a bottle. It was too much. I didn't even have time to think, let alone get organized for the day.
One day I decided to stop struggling and change the pattern. By setting my alarm clock just 15 minutes ahead of their typical wake up time, I felt like I had found the secret to my "good start". Now, many years later, this habit has been life-changing.✨I have cultivated a habit that fuels me. It has grown into my prayer time and daily organization time as well, which keeps me on point for work, life and peace.
What's your non-negotiable?
👩🏽💼Be careful what you allow to sit in your mind 🤔What thoughts are sitting in your mind? What thoughts are in the back seat talking junk. 🗣You don’t know what you’re doing...🗣you don’t know how to get there... 🗣follow my directions instead... 🗣let’s go have fun you don’t have to go home or work be responsible another time. 👩🏽💼or is it the passenger, the one closest to you. What thoughts run repeatedly? 🗣bring up your past, says the last time you got lost, the last time you got hurt. 👩🏽💼or are you picking up some focused, enthusiastic, driven ambitious, loving passengers (thoughts)?
The old me would have allowed things to fall down, to unravel all around me while I lay there wallowing in a pool of self-created and ego misery.⠀
Not the new me.⠀
Not Laura Francis 2.0.⠀
Not the me that is becoming more in tune with my higher self every moment of every day.⠀
I know better than to allow myself to do that.⠀
I know the consequences of doing that all too well.⠀
I know the heavy cost and burden of doing that.⠀
I know that doing THAT^ doesn't (it never has) served me.⠀
Because allowing that to happen means that I am:⠀
Stopping myself from being all that I can be.⠀
Keeping myself from rising up and claiming what is mine.⠀
Stopping myself from showing up and speaking my truth.⠀
Keeping myself from living creatively, passionately and purposefully.⠀
Keeping me from shining my light on the world and serving those I was born to help.⠀
And I know that when I DON'T allow myself to be and to do all of those things....⠀
I am dishonouring myself.⠀
I am dishonouring my tribe.⠀
I am dishonouring my art.⠀
I am dishonouring my desires.⠀
I am dishonouring my creativity.⠀
I am dishonouring my passion.⠀
I am dishonouring my purpose.⠀
I know that when I do THAT^ that I am living and honouring the highest version of myself. Of the I Am that I Am!⠀
I know that when I do THAT^ that I am gelling the universe that I am unworthy, that I am undeserving.⠀
I know that when I do that I am not being compassionate, accepting, and forgiving. That I am not loving myself.⠀
Loving myself in all ways and always, unconditionally, unrelentingly and unapologetically is fucking non-negotiable.⠀
That is just how it is.⠀
More than that.⠀
THAT is how it must be.⠀
Not only for me.⠀
But for you too gorgeous one.⠀
You must honour yourself ALL. THE. FUCKING. TIME.⠀
You must be true to yourself ALL. THE. FUCKING. TIME.⠀
THERE IS NO OTHER WAY⠀
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Have you ever tried putting lemon in your water? It has some great health benefits! The biggest ones being that is aids digestion, flushes the digestive system and re-hydrates the body.
Why not try it with your breakfast this morning, and help your body start the week feeling refreshed.
"Why is my skin so inflamed?
Of having bad skin.
But where did it start?
Feeling not good enough.
In what way?
Not being enough
Enough to be loved.
Everyone. Dad. Mum. Friends who preferred other friends.
Why does that matter?
Because I want to be known.
Who knows you?
Ollie. He sees me. But I feel afraid that he is just ‘in love’ I’m not totally convinced he will always love me. Like there will come a point when he sees the real me and realises he doesn’t love me. That I’m too hard work.
I need too much.
Attention. Touch. Love. And I also need to be able to push people away, or do my own thing whenever I feel like it. But then I expect him to be there when I come back, and just accept it.
That feels like too much. Too high maintenance.
So why is your skin inflamed?
Because I want attention.
In what way?
I want people to see me. To notice me.
That I have something to say. That I’m smart and inuitive and intelligent and insightful. I want people to know I have a unique perspective that they can’t get anywhere else.
So why your skin?
Because it’s on my face.
It’s near my mouth. Where I speak from.
And? Why is it inflamed?
To bring attention to my words. People will look at my mouth.
How else could you get attention for your words?
By speaking them louder, bolder.
On video, in blog posts, writing what I really think even if it sounds crazy.
Why is my skin inflamed?
Because I’m not speaking. I’m holding onto my words and they are turning toxic. It’s trying to get out.
My words. My truth.
What does ‘your truth’ mean?
What I really think.
That most of life is bullshit.
Everything. The way we try to live it, the systems, the garbage that we put up with and call it living.
School. Systems. Churches. Religion. Mainstream.
Anything that isn’t on purpose. Just doing things because we think we are meant to. Not realising we can create or do anything we choose.
Life is an illusion. We can change it. Manipulate it. To be whatever we want.
Are you doing that?
Do you ever journal like this? #askyourself
One of the BIGGEST challenges that most people face when it comes to networking is trying to figure out how to organize allll the people in your life so that you can actually keep up with them.
In one of my last posts, I talked about how to follow-up with people in a systematic way that steals mindshare and builds authentic relationships, so this time around, we're organizing all of our people. IG doesn’t allow for enough space to get into detail, so just a quick overview:
You don’t need to keep in touch with every person who comes into your life — just the RIGHT people.
You can do this one of two ways:
1. Core Circles Method — your top 50 people are those that you want to communicate with regularly, focus on contributing value to and build strong relationships with. The next 100 is your outer ring. You are focused on building relationships with them and they maybe considered “weak ties”. —
2. ABCD Referral Method — A people are those who refer you regularly, B people are those who refer you once in a while, C people are those that said they would refer you but haven’t yet and D is for Delete.
You can be a giver without burning out by paying attention to who and how you give. Your closest people should be other people who can help you reach your goals, not your ambitionless high school friend who can’t get their own life together, let alone help you. Being a strategic giver that focuses your time and attention on those who can help you, your network becomes energizing instead of draining. On that same note, we’re not just focused on taking from these people — we give FOUR times to every ONE time we ask for something. That way, you build emotional capital with them and you’re not just draining the relationship.
I prefer the first method and I use @contactually to do it. In another post, we’ll talk about how to communicate with them systematically AFTER the initial follow-up so you can maintain all of those relationships without burning out!
Remembering this has seriously helped me to become fierce in my decisions and actions, in both my business and my life. As a former self-confessed PP (people pleaser), I've definitely been guilty of over-doing it on letting other people dictate my time and energy. Because I didn't set the rules for myself.⠀
And, whether you’re a business owner or not, YOU ARE THE BOSS. Of your time, your energy, your life. Sometimes in life we forget that we get to make the decisions. Friendships. Relationships. Obligations. Commitments. Requests. Clients. Often we keep doing things, even if we aren’t feeling it anymore, because we feel like we have to. But actually, you have the right to change your mind. About anything, anytime. ⠀
So what are you doing in your life right now where you don’t feel like you’re in control? And how can you take that back? Maybe it’s a friendship that’s becoming a strain, but you keep going along to the arrangements because you feel like you ‘should.’ Maybe it's a hobby you've been doing for a while that just isn't turning you on anymore. Maybe it's a group you joined a while back that was great for then but simply isn't serving you anymore.⠀
There are no rules, only yours - change your mind, do your thing, be the boss.
Exercise has always been a part of my life and it’s amazing to see @therock promoting exercising to
Keep doing what you to 🙂👍 very inspirational!
Oh... and I love @underarmour to 🙂😉
Is there sibling rivalry in your house?
If there is, the good news is, the best solution is to let the kids work it out themselves!
When you do hear a disagreement between your kids, ignore it—busy yourself elsewhere. Give them a chance to work it out on their own.
If your kids clearly can’t reach an agreement, or if the fight escalates, you might have to step in. Listen to each child, encouraging “I feel” statements as they tell their story. Then, without placing blame or taking sides, ask them to come up with some solutions. If no one is able to come up with a workable resolution, suggest a few yourself, and help them reach an agreement.
How do you deal with sibling rivalry at home?
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The feed remains available and is captioned by the end of the day. Today I’m talking about changing the “not enough” mindset that so many of us experience and my blog will be out later this week at www.thegoodenoughmum.com/blog
✨ Magic Trick✨If you want something to disappear - don’t talk about it. Focus your attention somewhere else. If you could understand the importance of your thoughts 💭 you would never think or encourage another negative thought again. We’re only human and sometimes we (MMM girls) do it too- and the we get reminded about the power of the thoughts and we go 😳😳😳 #whathaveijustdone ! Buuuut! There are ways you can stop momentum of negative thoughts ! We’re preparing a mastermind workshop on this. Would you be interested to attend? #mindsetmatters
I haven’t had a full panic attack in years but I still get hit with random waves of stress, sadness, fear, dizziness, shortness of breath - you name it. Even when there’s nothing anxiety-inducing going on! 🤨
Having developed some pretty good coping mechanisms over the years, I thought I’d share the three questions that help me the most when I’m feeling overwhelmed.
Whether it’s in my journal or in silent meditation, I ask myself three questions: 1) How do I feel? 2) How do I want to feel? 3) How can I be of service?
Am I scared? Am I hungry? Am I tired? Am I feeling guilty? Identifying what I’m feeling is the first step. Next, I’ve gotta figure out how I WANT to feel. Do I want to feel cheerful? Relaxed? Rested? Productive? Whatever it is, I need it to be clear so that I can move on to the third and final question. How can I bridge the gap between how I feel and how I want to feel? Maybe I’ll eat something or go to bed or go for a run or call my mom or listen to a podcast or make a gratitude list. When it comes to anxiety, you’ve gotta learn to help yourself first. Find out what works for you (even if it’s just a bandaid in the moment) and start doing exactly that.
So the next time you’re feeling anxious or you’re dealing with any kind of mental clutter, try asking yourself those three questions and you’ll be amazed at what a little clarity can do.
Do you have anxiety coping mechanisms? Share below 👇🏻