Partnering with guilt is not making you a better mother.
It is paralysing you in your purpose, silencing your instincts and causing you to parent from a place of fear rather than freedom.
The thing about guilt is, it disguises itself as self awareness and tries to convince us that being hyper aware of our faults and failures is best for our little ones.
But it's not.
Our children need mothers who are fiercely aware of their abilities, standing securely in their calling and choosing to humbly take account of the areas where there is room for growth.
They need to see the beauty in being confident even when we're not 100% sure of ourselves. They need to see the importance of self care when we choose to prioritise our own needs from time to time. And they definitely need to see that it's possible to extend grace not only to others but to ourselves when we get it wrong.
The enemy is trying to take mothers out of the game left, right and centre. And often it's by subtly robbing us of our confidence and leaving us stuck in a cycle of decision making > questioning > guilt > over compensating.
But Jesus died so that cycle could be broken. He died so that every decision we made could be accompanied by a healthy revelation of His perspective, a sense of His presence and peace and His permission to move forward with confidence and security in our role as mother - the most powerful role we could ever be graced with.
If you struggle with this (as I have), I just want to invite you to pray right now and invite the Holy Spirit to become part of your day, your decision making, and your self talk.
It doesn't have to be a lengthy or eloquent prayer. Just one from a sincere and genuine heart. Some of Jesus most powerful prayers were a matter of words.
God is with you. He gave you your child/ren and He will give you His grace to raise them.
#mumlife when things are tough and you want to hide in bed, in the fetal position having a cry.. but instead you're sitting there cutting out a billion fondant shapes to make pokeball cupcakes for your sons birthday tomorrow 😬🙃
It's only 9am it's roasting! Olivers away to school with Pokemon cards that he wasn't allowed to take so thinks he's the dogs bollocks and Isaacs just threw his Frosties all over the floor and laughed in my face when told to naughty spot it!!! #mumlife#sendwine
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Yesterday was so sunny! We smothered ourselves in suncream and had ice lollies in the paddling pool. Does anyone else find that suncream + water = that perfect summer smell?
We are off to Lyme Regis tomorrow for a week with my family so I'm now in a proper summer mode. This is my first little trip away from home with two kids and I'm starting to wonder if we have enough space in the car??!!!!!! You need so much blooming stuff - especially as Ernie is in the midst of potty training and when anything vaguely exciting is going on the idea of potties just escapes him.... Think pissy shoes and poo filled trousers. 👍🏼 Bringing ten thousand spares of everything. 👕👖👞👟🙈
Well my day swiftly went from routined to ruined 😂 she looks so ill doesn't she? Didn't even make it through breakfast club. And it's 17 degrees already. Was gonna go to the shops this afternoon but that's home out the window, along with any knitting because 3 vs 1 and constant can I haves? #bigfaker#mumlife
Glückwunsch an alle tollen Papas auf dieser Welt!❤️ Emmi hat dem Papa heute schon tausende Liebeserklärungen gemacht und auch Ihre Geschenke überreicht. Einmal was selbstgebasteltes und dann hatten wir noch diesen Cupcake in Auftrag gegeben in Papis Lieblingssorte: Schwarzwälder Kirsch 🍒 #warsehrlecker 😋 Martin hat sich jedenfalls riesig gefreut. Er ist wirklich der beste Papa den Emmi und Elias sich wünschen könnten. 💕#besterpapaderwelt
Wie gern würde ich meinem Papa heute auch so einen Cupcake überreichen und ihn umarmen und sagen, wie lieb ich ihn habe. Er war einfach der beste Papa den ich mir wünschen konnte. Und der beste Opa den sich Emmi wünschen konnte. Wir lieben dich!❤️
Ich wünsche euch Allen noch einen wunderschönen Feiertag!☀️ #vatertag#papasgirl#mumlife#mamaleben#2fachmama#momof2#thinkpositive#cupcakes
#ThrowbackThursday ! This was one of my favourite books as a child 💕 Harry is a white dog with black spots that hates taking baths, so he buries the scrubbing brush! It is only when he gets very dirty (and looks like a black dog with white spots) and his owner doesn't recognise him, that Harry agrees to have a bath. Such a cute story 🐶 #bookieboobox#tbt#harrythedirtydog
Introducing Max & Ollie to Hello Harry! Simply because well.. their relationship is adorable. It may not always be adorable when they are running around driving their mothers nuts. But right now, it's cute. My sister Gab is 14 months older than me and these are her gorgeous boys!
Hey guys! Time for an updated introduction. FYI If you only knew the struggle it was to get this picture...there was a toddler AND a baby at my feet. 👦🏼👶🏼
They really are one of the biggest parts of my life though. I love being a mama to them, despite the fact that it pushes me to my limits on a daily basis. 😂😲
I'm the kind of girl that loves routines, organizing, and uncluttered spaces... I do not do 'going with the flow' very well (hence being pushed to my limits everyday 😉). What does keep me sane is salted caramel chocolate and Grey's Anatomy. Also, chats with my mama...'cause no matter how big you get, your mama is still your mama. And in my case, also my best friend. 😊❤
Tell me, what is your favourite chocolate? 🍫🍫🍫
Thursday is cousins day, Lettie's favourite! And it's my favourite too because I get lots of cute photos while I'm at work! Today she went with Noni, Aunty Becky, and her cousins Millie and Siena to the playground and I have to admit, I was pretty jealous of all the fun she was having!!
WARNING, SERIOUS CUTENESS OVERLOAD!! Who says you have to hang up your summer wardrobe now that we are entering the cooler months.. Harper's Forrest Wanderer flutter sleeve playsuit matched with her pink tights and pink bow is simply perfect!
We have a handful of these gorgeous playsuits left in 3-6 months, 6-9 months and 9-12months. Don't forget you can shop now, pay later with #AFTERPAY
Your kids are a reflection of you! They pick up your energy and mimic you in almost all their actions and reactions. If you're not liking their behaviour then maybe step back and have a look at how you're behaving. Today I wasn't in a good place and both my kids were picking up on my stress. Cue tears and tantrums (from all three of us!) it took until the afternoon for me to pull myself together and change my state! Amazing the difference it made in a matter of minutes calm had returned to the house! See, there really isn't much a good muffin baking session can't fix!
Feeling super tired, drained and fatigued today so just did my Fat Burning Walk & Rehab exercises. Planning a run tomorrow, just a short one before Parkrun Saturday & the Merimbula Fun Run Sunday! Easing myself back into it before my 18kmer next week! #marathon#ithinkivegonemad#marathontraining