✖️ @smelliot_bm: I usually get a lot of bother due to the fact I chose to have my top surgery without nipples. The most common statement is that I look “weird” or “wrong”.
I spend a lot of time wondering if I made the right choice... Then I remember that I made the choice and these people are the ones who have made the wrong choice by actively deciding to take time out of their day to comment negatively on my appearance.
I did not get this surgery to alter my appearance in the same way someone might get lip injections; I got this surgery to stop those thoughts in my head. Those thoughts that told me I was pathetic, ugly, feminine, and all the other horrible thoughts that come with gender dysphoria.
The fact I don’t have nipples doesn’t change who I am. I still identify as male and I’m always thankful for being able to go through this transition with such ease.
These scars are a sign of my freedom, this bare, nipple-less chest is something I wouldn’t change for the world.
You might not agree with my choice, you might 100% want nipple grafts when you have surgery and that’s fine, we all have different wants! Just don’t be rude to other people because they don’t fit your expectations and personal preference.
We are all unique and we are all fighting our own battles.
✖️ @alexadia3582: Dear all, my name is Alexandra and I´m from Germany. I´m a 35 year old woman with a transexual past. I think this sounds good :-) When I was a child I didn´t understand that I was different, but when I grew up I understood that I normally used to be a girl, especially during puberty, which was really awful and this feeling and thoughts made me crazy a lot of times.
I just wanted to be "normal" and also that my family were proud of me. I have read it a few times on this page and it is true, my generation didn´t talk about transexuality in and also I didn´t have internet until I was 17, so I didn´t know something about beeing trans. The only thing I knew was that there are gays, but I knew that I´m not.
Sometimes I thought that I´m crazy or perverse. When I was 17 I saw @Dana International, a great singer from Israel in TV and the moderator said, that she was born with a male body.
The first time I knew that I´m not alone on this world, which made me happy at first and then afraid. I didn´t had the courage for telling somebody. So I still lived a male life and I still had hope to win this fight against myself, which sounds crazy but I think a lot of other transgenders do understand what I mean. So the years were passing, I had a good job, I got married with a woman and I had a lot of friends. But with every day which was passing I got more and more unhappy and finally depressed, as long as I was true to myself and accepted that I´m a woman. So I told to my family and my ex-wife in 2013. It was really a hard time, also for the family and of course for my wife. We have been divorced now, but just want to thank her for her great support and we are still friends, which I really appreciate! Later on I told it my friends, changed my job and was really happy that the most of them supported me.
I started with hormones in 2014 and I had a few surgeries, also the grs :-) So today I´m living finally my life and I´m so happy about every single day.
The last years I did everything that nobody will know something about my past, especially on social medias and people who I meet the first time. (Continues in comments.)