Know your audience!
So a practical example for what I'm about to share...
My husband's cousin's wife died suddenly over last weekend. When he was getting ready to head down to the service on Monday, he asked me "What do I say? What is the "right" thing to say at a time like this?" Of course we talked about it and landed on simply "I'm sorry." But I thought more about it and...
From my perspective- which is always trying to see something good, learn something, or grow as a person- what I really would have liked to say in all honesty was along the lines of...
"Everything happens for a reason. She is likely in a lot less pain. There will be growth from this. Think about all of the smiles, laughs, and good memories. Honor her by keeping the joy of knowing her alive. It will work out with time. Take care of you. Let yourself heal. It's okay to cry."
All of this does come from a place of love and empathy. I lost my uncle in a sudden and tragic way. And I mean no harm when I make the above comments about life and death.
But I thought about it more and realized I have to know and respect my audience. A man in deep grief, left with children is not going to be receptive to my self-love and positive outlook talk. He'd probably hear me and want to bash my head in.
So in this case, I would keep quiet and just send loving kindness with my thoughts and prayers. Holding space for him to heal. Not forcing my enlightened outlook on him.
It's the same for our colleagues and coworkers. Some will be ready, open, and receptive to hearing about work life balance or the benefits of self-care. Others- not so much. All we can do is live by example. Be that role model. Walk your talk. Let them SEE how you feel. If interested, they will ask and take their own actions to learn and do more. 😎💜✌️
Nightshift--where you can't keep your eyes open on the way home, but suddenly feel energized when you walk in the door 😂
The first night back is always hard...and whew am I tired! That 4am wall ain't no joke y'all! Home to eat breakfast, spend some time in the Word, and take my middle to cheer camp! Daddy and Paisley are on the way to pick Gracey up from church camp!!! Yay! I miss my big girl!
Our whole family will finally be all together tonight! (And then Daddy is back at the station tomorrow 🤦🏻♀️) _____
It's a crazy life, but it's a crazy life I love!
When the scale is being a turd but someone you work with says , "you're shrinking." Um, what? Others can see progress?!?! Just what I needed to keep on keepin on this week! Trust the process, focus on how your clothes fit and forget the scale when it isn't serving you. ✌🏻️💜
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Self-Sabotage. It almost won today.
I woke up with a knot in my chest - I didn't want to get out of bed, I didn't want to face the day, I didn't want to do my workout, I didn't want to the hard things I know I need to do.
Last week, I set some pretty big goals. Because for the first time, I let myself BELIEVE that I am worthy of bigger things.
Exactly one week ago, I sat in a room of leaders. A leadership workshop specifically for the very top coaches in our company.
And as I looked around the room, I realized there was no reason, my team could not reach for higher goals - there was nothing different about us and the other people in that room. Most of them are moms just like us - moms who simply made the decision they wouldn't let societal norms dictate how they lived their lives. Moms who refused to believe SAHM or Working-Mom are our only choices.
But today, as I start taking action on some of those big goals - the fear almost froze me.
Because its SCARY to think big, its SCARY to reach outside your comfort zone and that's exactly where these goals are taking me.
But self-sabotage did NOT win - I simply decided to turn off my brain, go through the motions, kick my own butt with a sweat session (#freetherapy ) and make the DECISION to BELIEVE in myself.
Our team is growing every day.
We are helping more and more women get healthy, start and grow successful businesses every day.
We WILL rise to the top and we will not let fear hold us back.
We are changing lives and you can join us or watch us - we all can choose our hard and today I chose the hard that will change lives, including my own.
Don't think about what can happen in a month. Don't think about what can happen in a year. Just focus on the 24 hours in front of you and do what you can to get closer to where you want to be.
That's exactly what I've been doing everyday since September when I took a leap of faith with Le-Vel! My dreams are coming true. My body is transforming before my eyes, my health is better, my marriage is better. I am a better mom and I'm all around a happier person. This experience has changed my life. I know I keep saying that, but it truly has! I know what it's done for me and I have to share it with the world 🌎 because YOUR life deserves so many blessings. So quit watching me and join me on this amazing journey. Stop waiting for the right time, because what you put off today, you can never get tomorrow. Just do it!
And if you're ready to finally Thrive.... let's chat! .
She painted her canvas with ink made of her tears, her blood stained her artwork in colours of her dreams and her aspirations she longed to become; an artist of words mixed with admiration, her soul tiptoes to a drunken melody of something bigger than she assumes she can become; her heart bleeds as her brush runs free on this big white square, unassuming, unsure of what will be the result; yet she still paints, putting in her all for a photo worth more than just its exterior; and with each stroke; a thousand more words.