As a child- heck, also as an adult- I never learned to love myself. I instead learned that I was faulty, imperfect and a sinner. I took this with me through my life and until about 18 months ago, was unfamiliar with the practices of self care and self love that I now follow.
Having two daughters, I’ve made it my mission to ensure that they hold value in themselves, that they know how they deserve to be treated AND what they don’t need to accept. That they see their own potential, feel their dreams and know that they can create them for themselves.
But before and underpinning all of this, I simply want them to love themselves. Fully and truly.
My daughter’s name is Ada. I walked into her room and saw this new artwork and I asked, “that’s lovely- who made you that?”, assuming it was gifted. “I did Mummy. I wrote ’I love you Ada’ because I love myself!”
This meant more to me than anything else. I’ve been making so many parenting fails in these challenging times and when she spoke those words I knew I had done something right.
The artwork hangs next to her bed in its handmade frame, where she wakes in the light and knows that she loves herself. ❤️
Me too. •
But instead of sharing my story. I want to change her story. I tell my kids often about not letting anyone touch them in a way they don't like, that even if someone threatens them with hurting me or someone they love that love that we are stronger than that, to run if anyone points a gun because they are less likely to get hit, to fight to get away at all cost because chances are they will be killed. •
That no means no. •
The meaning doesn't change in play. And use your "no" and "stop" judiciously - use your words and don't just use those words lightly. •
Those are powerful words that should stop you in your tracts. Should stop others. And you should know when you use them that you mean it. •
Don't be a people pleaser. Don't put yourself second, but still have empathy and compassion for others. •
And to stand by your worth. You have the power. If you don't like something state it and stand behind it. •
I hope as I continue to repeat these words she'll believe it and her peers will believe it. And not only believe it but act on it when the time comes. •
I don't want this next group hash tagging #metoo . It's out of the closet. It's not going back in and by speaking of it to our daughters (and to ourselves) we can stop this. •
We got this. •#metoo#girlpower#stopnow#powerofno#bossgirls#ourdaughters#nother
WE. JUST. LAUNCHED. ON. CROWDFUNDER!!!!!!!! After a lot of late nights and hard work the Daughters Crowdfunder Campaign is online and ready for your pledges 💰 We have 5 weeks to reach our total so that we can progress Daughters to the next stage. Go pledge now, link in our bio 👆🏽 Whilst you do that I'm going to have a wee lie down and a satsuma 🍊
I know my sis @yeng_yengb already posted this, but I'm as equally proud a mom/aunt as she is when it comes to these two. Just a snippet (darn you Instagram for only being able to post 1-minute vids or less) of my daughter Kaia Elizabeth and niece Isabella Dulce performing James Arthur's "Say You Won't Let Go". This was for their new uncle Derek @insta_bho and their wonderful aunt Anna Maria @__maan, who I know they both look up to very much. I'm so proud of you young ladies, sharing your God-given talents that night. You make my heart smile (and not to mention cry with pride everytime I watch the video). I live vicariously through you!!! 😊 Thank you to my brother Ben @big_b3n for providing the mics and for helping them practice this song. This reminds me of when they performed at your wedding as well xo .
#growbetterwithage#yournieces#ourdaughters#teenagers#wheredidthetimego#kaiaelizabethbf#happyweddingday#ohhappyday#ourminimes#itsintheblood#musicislife#bhomonte2017#latergram @kaia7ernandez @_izzi15_
Sundays are admin days 📨 Currently finishing up my Crowdfunder proposal ready to get it out this week and then I'm off for a nice Autumn walk 🍁 Had a gorgeous sunny weekend in Suffolk with my main babe @tarashirls brainstorming ideas, making plans and dreaming dreams. Watch this space... Photo taken by meeeeee in Pondi last December 💙💚
A younger and more tanned photo of maker, creator and original #ourdaughter @sionarose wrapping goodies at the first ever Daughters pop up shop wearing the first ever Daughters set. This feels like worlds away! We're itching to get out and do another popup shop but until then all our sets are on our Etsy store 💙
Absolutely honoured to be featured in this weeks Our Daughters Journal. Follow the link below to read as well as to shop and find out more about this incredible business. 'Daughters works to empower and support Indian women who have been subject to gender based violence...' 'We are, after all, someone's daughter' ✨✨✨✨✨✨ #ourdaughters#prettylittletreatments#celebratingwomen
Find the beautiful, glittering Chloe on the journal today for the next feature in the #ourdaughters series. Chlo is the owner of @prettylittletreatments and a believer that marching to the beat of your own drum is always the best plan 🥁
She's proud to say #imadaughter ✨ Journal link in our bio 👆🏽
International day of the girl ❤
Let's fight for a better, more equal future for our daughters.
Teach them that they can be whatever they want, that they can achieve anything they put their mind to.
Show them that women are strong, powerful and inspiring by being that role model, show them that they have a voice that can be heard by speaking up and fighting against inequality (all inequality)
Teach them to stand up for the rights of others and not stand idly by while injustice surrounds them.
But let's also educate our boys, teach them to stand up for what's right, teach them that women are their equals. Be mindful of the language we use when speaking to them, saying things like "don't be such a girl" "don't be a pussy" etc just perpetuate a culture where boys are taught that the worst thing they can be is like a woman, cementing than women are lesser.
I want more for my daughter and for my son. I want a future where my daughter is not scared of men, of dark parking garages or of being herself. A future where my son isn't expected to showcase his masculinity at the expense of women, a future where he does not have to fear for his sister. .
Having a natter over a cup of chai ☕️ Got something to say about what we're doing? I love hearing ideas and feedback so please do get in touch any time either in the comments or by email firstname.lastname@example.org 💌