I belong to a group called The Healthy Nervous System. This was written by one of the owners, Seth Lyon. "A note on race, trauma, and the nervous system.
There has been a recent post that has got people all fired up about race issues and that's ok. It's ok to have passionate debate and to share your experiences. Please do!
It's not ok, in this group, to point fingers, tell people who or what they are, tell them or even imply that they need to change in a way you proscribe, or otherwise engage in aggressive behaviour.
Here's the thing to consider in this group when it comes to race, and if you are not down with this it is totally fine to leave this group....
Your nervous system does not care what color you are, what sex you are, or where you are from.
Your physiology does not care HOW your trauma got stored within it.
Race, sex, religion, geography, sexual orientation, etc.... none of this has anything to do with what we are promoting here - which is health of the nervous system and resolving trauma.
Telling your story is fine, we ALL have a unique story. And yet no matter the story and it's value, the impact on the nervous system is the same. There are gradations in terms of how the locked-up survival expresses due to the nature of how it came in, but at the fundamental level, all trauma creates the same result no matter the form - nervous system dysregulation.
Whether it be from systemic racial oppression, or growing up white, wealthy and ignored, with no empathy - the impact on the nervous system is the same.
Whether it be from getting blown up in a war, or beat up and bullied in the schoolyard - same.
Oppressed by religion, or growing up completely without boundaries or guidance of any kind - same.
That's why, in this group, we ask that you not try to make any kind of suffering "worse" or "better" than any other kind because it is not.
If this strikes you as unsafe or unfair that's also fine, but if that is the case, this group is probably not the best place for you."