Sex education is so needed in our society. I’ve taken it upon myself to educate the masses about what gives us life. To start, I made a cute lil Crop top/T-shirt with a diagram of a vulva and it’s parts. I mean, if you’re gonna have sex you might as well know your way around, right?! The crop and T-shirt are both available on my etsy shop. Link in bio! Cop one and help us become educated about our bodies! #vaginashirt#sexed#sex#vulvashirt
Trauma or not, the speed of our world can feel like an embodied emergency.
Never ending Inbox. Forever flowing newsfeed. Ceaseless responsibilities. Pressing social, political and financial pressures. ...and the speed of emergency is fast and contagious.
Let’s talk bodies and business for a sec to demo the point…
In the beginning of running a business with employees, I noticed that before and during any of our big planning meetings, my entire body was rushing with jitters through the center of me – especially my heart. Pumping, pumping, pumping, something about the perceived pressure of “getting it all right” and “getting it all done” raised my cortisol and adrenaline.
So I started doing a practice with a previous employee called the Body-Based Business Check-In. At the beginning of each call, we’d do a quick survey…
On a scale from 1-10 how grounded and centered do I feel?
1’s on the uncomfortable side – wobbly, ungrounded, dis-regulated or generally unnourished.
10’s on the brighter side – vivacious and alive, while also calm, grounded and ready to go.
We’d check in, zero judgement, then ask ourselves, what’s something I can do that’s 5 minutes or less to increase my sense of stability before we dive into our meeting?
Through this shared practice, we began co-creating a work culture rooted in embodied grace, ease, groundedness and care. It was radical… and felt amazing. Additionally, when we noticed our bodies dis-regulating during meetings, we were much sooner to catch it and simply do something small to re-center.
Overall? It meant a more grounded, efficient and joyful work experience – in situations that used to create fast and contagious speed, stress, overwhelm and anxiety.
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How to get over someone🌼
Firstly, I would like to point out that recovery takes time. You can’t get over someone overnight, and that’s totally okay. Everyone’s different; people move on from others at different speeds. It’s not lie that breaking up sucks; whether the breakup was one sided, mutual, traumatic, or peaceful, etc. Here are some steps to get over the person you were with. -accept the fact that there were good and bad times, every relationship goes through it’s ups and downs. Which is normal, however be aware of any times there may have been some downs that were really degrading. Sometimes your ex girlfriend/boyfriend/significant other acted mentally and/or physically abusive. An example of mental abuse being limiting your friend group, breaking you down, making you feel bad for things that were out of your control, manipulating you into doing things you’re not comfortable with, etc. Examples of physical abuse: anything that has to do with laying hands on you in anger, is abuse and is not okay or safe. As well as doing anything remotely sexual without your consent, is 100% abusive. -Plan things to look forward to, I honestly can’t stress how important this one is. For many people once you get out of a relationship you lose motivation and/or joy to go out and do things. Don’t let this take over, make plans with people; go out and have fun. This will help you get back in the habit of doing the things you love. -stop comparing people you like to your ex, if you like someone go for it. Don’t compare them to the good parts of your ex. Chances are this person will have many great qualities as well. -go home, we all have a home; this may be not only the place you live but with friends and/or family. Your support system is here for you and will help you through this. When you’re going through a difficult time connect with the people you love and trust. They’re here for you. -date your friends! Okay don’t actually date them (unless you want to, you do you boo boo). What I mean by this is start seeing your friends more often, for most people your friends can fulfill you way more than a significant other can. (continued in comments)
There are many other physical, emotional and social changes of puberty as well, and it generally takes five to seven years for all of the changes to be complete. What changes are you experiencing? There isn't a right time for everyone, so don't worry if you haven't noticed anything different just yet! Learn more by watching our video Puberty in Girls: Boobs and More on your Youtube channel!
We're halfway thru January and hopefully you're working on your resolutions. Did you remember to prioritize your pleasure this year? Writing things down will help organize your thoughts and keep you accountable ✏ What's one pleasure centered act you want to accomplish in 2018?
" El toc, toc de la Educación Sexual".
( III Parte) .
Por: Johnthan Rivero @psicjrivero ☕️
Ya que la metodología del miedo, de la descalificación y la ambigüedad no han dado un muy buen resultado. Y los resultados de ese enfoque son el aumento en la transmisión de virus por contacto sexual, los embarazos en niñas y adolescentes, la prostitución infantil y juvenil, la confusión de identidad de sexo y género, el tráfico de infantil con fines sexuales, jóvenes participando en orgías o fiestas donde el objetivo es sexualizar… y la lista es grande.
Para concluir y cerrar las ideas, quiero recordarles que aún podemos hacer algo y sacarle provecho a las circunstancias. ✅Pero esto solo depende de cada uno de nosotros los adultos, de poner en movimiento el cambio desde nuestro interior para al cambiar nosotros, mostrar con humildad y naturalidad lo que es ser “seres sexuados,” personas que viven sanamente su sexualidad. ✅El ponerle significado e importancia a nuestra sexualidad y darle la oportunidad a esta nueva generación a salir de la hipnosis colectiva de actuar sin saber, de vivir aislados por miedo o convertirse en predadores para subsistir.
La educación sexual inicia con nosotros los adultos en aprender a saber los nombres correctos de nuestros órganos sexuales, el reconocerlos y aceptarlos como son, el explorar las creencias que tenemos sobre la sexualidad y nuestra sexualidad; así como el aprender cómo funcionan en ti. Cuando te sientas completamente cómodo con tu sexualidad y hables con respeto, sin miedo de ella; será el inicio de tu proceso de ser un padre que puede guiar mejor a sus hijos en el camino de la sexualidad.
De eso les escribiré en otro post; gracias y volvamos a nuestra esencia.
I feel this so much. Lately I've been seeing a lot of belittling, talking down to, and condemning of folks who don't know certain things. We already agreed that the education [especially the sex ed] system is broken or non-existent. I want to HELP people, not make them feel less of a person for not being aware of things. Education is the key for growth and understanding. I hope we can do better at explaining certain topics and not immediately "yell" at the person because that gets us no where. 💕 #exxxiteme#sexed
Vaginal discharge are a major concern for women all around the world.
Many times, women are quick to panic over a change in color or quantity of vaginal discharge, although only a few ever seek medical opinion. Most of us just rely on "Google says.. " or our friend's opinions.
Normal Vaginal discharge:
Clear and watery
Clear and strechy
When you should panic:
When it smells
When it is bloody
When it is yellow
When it turns green
When it turns brown
Color may change around your period
Quantity may change when you ovulate
DM if you have questions
Ways to feel more feminine for closeted mtf trans bbys💓
- part your hair the way that makes you feel most pretty and confident.
- wear feminine underwear underneath your boxers. They have really cheap cute underwear at Rue21 and even Walmart, as well as any online store. Don’t worry about being judged for buying “feminine” underwear if your male; they won’t think much of it (they probably will think you’re buying for your significant other. - wear sports bras (without any push up/cups) under your clothes. - wear jewelry, if you’re scared of any judgement and someone asks why you’re wearing “feminine” jewelry you can say your younger sibling, cousin, etc got it for you and wanted you to wear it. - Paint your toenails, this is a huge help to make you for more feminine without chance of people noticing. You can even cover them with socks if you are really nervous about unsupportive people seeing.
- Use clear/ slightly tinted nail polish on your fingers.
- Do your eyebrows, shaping my eyebrows personally just makes myself and many others feel really pretty. - wear bracelets that make you feel more feminine - Wear a clear/ natural brown mascara, this will lift your eyelashes without anyone knowing it’s mascara. Stray away from black/ unnatural mascara colors if you’re not comfortable enough to wear them.
- Practice making your voice higher, I had actually recently found that on YouTube they have loads of videos about how to do it. - Wear floral patterns on socks/ any clothing you’d like. Or any pattern that makes you feel more feminine. - Wear loose/flowy shirts, these always tend to make me feel super pretty and it’s a plus that they’re super comfy. - Have your sibling (if you have one) paint your nails, then if anyone asks why your nails are painted you can just say that your sister(apologies for gendered language) painted your nails and you didn’t want to take it off to make your sibling happy!
Just a disclaimer that you don’t have to follow these steps to feel more feminine or beautiful. You are absolutely beautiful just the way you are. Also please don’t feel discouraged if you can’t follow some of these steps. (continued below in comments)
Let’s discuss. So many people confuse love for attachment and ownership. They feel the tighter they hold onto the someone, the more in love they are, yet this behaviour ultimately drives their partners away. And it can also dull things in the bedroom. Why?
ha Mariana is so funny. and in diamond in the rough, what isn't in the photo is when Mariana is talking about Jesus about getting him a project making a treehouse with gabe and before she mentions that she says she has an idea for Jesus then stef says "your ideas scare me. should we be sitting down for this" ( yes I memorized it cause I'm obsessed with the fosters duh lol) but then when stef said that, Mariana gave Lena a look like oh goodness and Lena was just I don't know she's cute she's Lena she's Sherri lol I love her she's the cutest and also then stef asked Mariana how they'd pay for it and Mariana said "see I anticipated that question" and stef said "of course you did" and yes I memoriZed that too lol I love stef and Mariana and Teri polo and cierra Ramirez and Sherri saum. oh and funny about sex Ed too was when Mariana was texting stefwaiting for her then went on her phone then stef scared her from behind and Mariana screamed and ran to her room. Lena made stef apologize then stef was talking to Mariana about Disney princesses then stef screamed and I don't know it was funny lol i love Mariana and stef
More on #bdsm from #mistressmona :
“There's a neuro peptide called Substance P, and that is actually what's in your brain that influences how your body processes pain. So, for some people, it is pleasurable—for other people, it just feels like pain. And then, there's also the fact of subspace. So for some people, when they're experiencing pain or just really intense physical sensations, and there's a release of endorphins—the body's natural opiates, which work to anesthetize pain but they also cause a feeling of euphoria—combined with adrenaline, you can get this really euphoric sensation. For some people, it's almost like a spiritual kind of feeling. For other people, it's just this very release-type of feeling. For other people, it could be a sexual thing—but BDSM and sex are not necessarily synonymous.”
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Another video is live on my YouTube page! Search: TheFortitudeFix for my latest video explaining what a Doula is and why this work is so close to my heart. I appreciate you watching, commenting and subscribing to my channel if you haven't already. The link is always in my bio 🙂 Stay tuned for this Friday's video, it goes live at 8am PST and it'll be a bit different (on a new topic). I can't wait to continue sharing my stories with you all and create new content that inspires. If I can touch 1 persons life positively, I've done amazing work! Thanks so much for the support and remember to Fill Your Cup #youtube#doula#doulalife#blackdoula#donaproud#healtheducator#sexed#sicklecell#sicklecellwarrior#sicklecelladvocate
If it was up to us we’d be the #ValentinesDay version of the Tooth Fairy /Santa Clause and every babe would wake up on #VDAY with a mini #pussypower pack under their pillow. But alas, we can barely keep up with our online orders - so we may need to grow our team before rolling out that new objective. 😂 A girl can #dream ! ⚡️⚡️⚡️ #Condoms#Lube#SelfLove#SafeSex
We are developing a kit of five plastic vulvas based on real life models molds. The idea is to be abble to show the diversity of appearances for this organ, at a reasonable price. What do you think about it? Would you use it? How much would your organization pay for that type of tool?
From Zuleyma Rivera, LMSW: If your teen is questioning his/her/their sexual orientation and/or gender identity, they may be worried about how safe it is to “come out” to you. Using heteronormative and binary language may send the signal that you won’t be supportive of them, and make them shut down.
Be inclusive by talking about not only boys and girls, but boys and boys or girls and girls. Assert the existence of different gender identities. This creates a safe environment for your teen to explore their own identity.
Even if your teen isn’t questioning their identity, using inclusive language sends the signal that LGBTQ relationships and identities are normal.
Found it! Confused? So are @topgallantradio and @tangolikecash! Listen to the latest SEX + VIOLENCE (your weekly punk rock movie podcast) on iTunes or Stitcher to get some context! Or don't! Just enjoy diagrams of hedgehogs giving each other oral. I'm not your mother.
2018, is a year of change and of growth.
I am pushing through doors And busting through walls.
This year I will be speaking at 4 conferences.
Working on more content for @morethanno . And expanding the brand with @bitsylabourbon .
I have an amazing support and manager in @dannielleor.
Excited to create some intersectional sex ed material with @siairashawn
And more... Needless to see it will be a busy amazing year.
Sex Ed is a hard gig and a lot of work that I think is extremely needed. Especially as I continue to expand my work with trauma survivors.
I have had people ask how that can support me.
Here ya go!!! I will be traveling out of the country to teach for the first time and around the US. It takes a village to make a change.
This is my year of yes And opening my self up to receive. If you would like to donate. I would like to receive this gift.
Thank you. I am excited for this amazing year ahead.