Evaluate your values. Choose from the list. What do you value and why?
I value kindness.
Kindness is the quality of being friendly, generous, and considerate. Everyone knows what kindness is, but valuing and practicing it is another story.
In high school, I was taught to "be a man for others," which is a staple of the Jesuit teaching tradition. Kindness, even the smallest gestures of it, is the starting point of being a person for others.
But high school isn't kind, and I reflected my perception of my experience back to the world. My logical fallacy was to expect kindness in exchange for kindness. But it's not a transaction. I have control over my thoughts and how I treat others. I have no control over whether someone will value kindness in their interaction with me.
Practice kindness, expect nothing I return.
Also during that time in my life, I wanted to have an impact. To do something. To change the world. What I didn't realize is that changing the world can start with kindness.
Start with smiling at somebody in the grocery store, or the office, or on the street, and you might hanger their day. Maybe they'll be inspired to share a smile with someone else later in their day. It's contagious. The effect on the world will multiply.
Kindness is being emotionally intelligent; treating others as they want to be treated. Everyone is going through a struggle or pain on some level. Valuing kindness acknowledges that and turns the focus on being friendly, generous, and considerate to that person. It's about being a human being. A person for others.
I value kindness. It's the greatest gift you can give.