I’ve been thinking about you - about all of us really - and everything we are going through. This flower is a metaphor: Your authentic expression of where you are on your path - EXACTLY WHERE YOU ARE NOW (not where you want to be, where you hope to be, or where you plan to be soon). YOU exactly as you are NOW (in all of your pain and mess), is medicine for someone else. Your authentic expression of your journey (imperfect as it may be to you) is exactly the permission slip or the outstretched hand that someone else needs to take the next step in their life.
Don't hide it.
The flower is going through a process of transformation - and she does not hide her process, only to reveal herself in full bloom.
Don’t hide your process.
I know it’s hard. And scary. And terrifying. This idea of sharing yourself as you are brings up past or perceived trauma of the shame of imperfection. That’s where The Energetics of Instagram comes in. In this course (link in bio) I share everything I know about how I learned to share myself authentically and vulnerably on social media - and I’m still learning!
If you’ve ever felt scared, trapped, or embarrassed by what you felt in your heart as truth but didn’t know how to share, this class is for you.
You have a unique and extremely valuable viewpoint to share with the world and there is someone, no, actually HUNDREDS of people out there who NEED to hear your voice.
Tap the link in my bio to get instant access to everything you need to let your magic out in a safe and empowering way. 👆🏼 _
DOORS CLOSE Friday 10/27!
“ And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.” - Anaïs Nin 🙏🏼 Let’s do this 🌸🌸🌸 soulstarmedicine.com/instagram 🚀
"How much we know and understand ourselves is critically important, but there is something that is even more essential to living a Wholehearted life: loving ourselves." .
Brene Brown is helping me to view myself completely differently through this book. I've never thought about shame in this way before.
Can't wait to dive back in to this. ♡
A #SneakPeek into #TheConfidenceProject :
Day 3: AUTHENTICITY
I want you to see an actual photo that conveys true authenticity.
Photo 1: Me in January, before the weight of the world (haha, get it??) was on my shoulders (and thighs 😂) But seriously, this was before the stress of the year had fully hit, and before my weight gain and heartbreak.
Photo #2 : Me now....in a moment of joy. Those who know me well, know that the laughter in this photo is genuine, but they also see that my smile isn’t as carefree as it once was.
Photo #3 : This is raw, this is real, this is vulnerability in a photo. ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ If I were to present photos like #1 on social media as if it were me now, to save face or avoid shame....it would be inauthentic and only work to exacerbate my feelings of shame. Like I DO have something to hide.
Similarly, to pretend in any way, with anyone that my beliefs, values, or opinions are different than they are, or to change the way I dress, act or speak, to “fit in”.....it would do exactly the same thing.
Fitting in means being like “them”. Belonging means you’re accepted for YOU. Inauthenticity COSTS you your belief that you, as you are, are enough. 💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕 Photo #2 conveys authenticity to me. Yes, I have my hair and makeup done, I am putting my best foot forward on these photos, but that in itself is authentic to me.
I love how full makeup and curls makes me feel....like I can light up a room with my smile.
Yet there is that element of vulnerability there too....do you see it?
It’s not just that you can see my rolls....it’s that you can see I’m not polished, not perfect, and maybe most importantly, not TRYING to be perfect. 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥 Photo #3 conveys vulnerability....real, deep, raw vulnerability.
The stuff not everyone has earned a right to see.
The parts of my story that only a friend who’s willing to sit in the discomfort with me, is allowed to see.
But it does need to be seen, friends. The deep, raw parts....those parts are longing for a sense of connection and to know that you are not alone. PARTICULARLY those parts you feel “shame” about. You will quickly learn that all those things you believed were “just me”, are not 💕
Tonight I went to a Favorite Things party for the women at my church. Each person brought one of her favorite things, wrapped up and we all went home with someone else's favorite thing. It was a really fun way to get to know people!
I decided to bring one of my favorite books, The Gifts of Imperfection by @Brenebrown (And some chocolate of course, which I'm proud to say lasted 4 days at my house without being eaten, #nonscalevictory )
I found this book right when I needed it. It helped me to understand myself better and I just can't stop recommending this $9 gem to friends!
“Owning our story can be hard but not nearly as difficult as spending our lives running from it. Embracing our vulnerabilities is risky but not nearly as dangerous as giving up on love and belonging and joy – the experiences that make us the most vulnerable. Only when we are brave enough to explore the darkness will we discover the infinite power of our light.”
"Belonging is the innate human desire to be part of something larger than us. Because this yearning is so primal, we often try to acquire it by fitting in and by seeking approval, which are not only hollow substitutes for belonging, but often barriers to it. Because true belonging only happens when we present our authentic, imperfect selves to the world, our sense of belonging can never be greater than our level of self-acceptance." - Dr. Brené Brown, "The Gifts of Imperfection."
Found this awesome little coffee shop to finish this awesome little book in! @brenebrown ‘The Gifts of Imperfections’ has explained even more to me about the human experience and the importance of vulnerability & belonging! For me, I always know it’s a good read when the book is covered in highlighter/pen/notes! 😂 PS Amazzzzzzzing coffee accompaniment! ☕️☕️☕️ Cootos @granthamscafe 👌🏻 #brenebrown#thegiftsofimperfection#bookstagram#coffeeshoplove#dublincoffee
As I'm facing a big move, update and reno, and all of the associated costs and organizing it's easy to start feeling overwhelmed and even doubtful that I'll be able to pull it all together. Taking some time on this drizzly Saturday morning to regroup 😊 #relax#breathe#thegiftsofimperfection#teatime ☕ #saturdaymorning
Day 183: Play. The best part of memoir night is the laughing. So much laughing. I loved it and I’m so so grateful to everyone who came and read and brought food that I’m still eating. Today the writing prompt is on play. Letting go. Being goofy. Trying new things. Jumping from rock to rock. Having a bum war on the tramp. Taking a break. Dancing in the kitchen. Sitting around with friends new and old and sharing hard and silly and unexpected things with each other. And writing whatever comes and surprising yourself. Write about playing for 8 minutes. I hope if you couldn’t come this memoir night, you come to the next one. I’ve already figured out more seating options! One of my happiest nights in a long time. #8minutememoir#thankyousomuch#brenebrown#thegiftsofimperfection
"Anxiety is extremely contagious, but so is CALM ." Harriet Lerner. In the book #thegiftsofimperfection @brenebrown -Guidepost# 8 CULTIVATING CALM AND STILLNESS @brenebrown writes "The question becomes, Do we want to infect people with more anxiety, or heal ourselves and the people around us with calm? " What is your pattern response when it comes to responding to emotionally volatile situations ? For most of life Anxiety was my default response which sometimes would turn into screaming and yelling (oh yes a few temper tantrums too) This was an old pattern and stems from my childhood . Calm was not modeled in our home... its a learned behavoir .. HERE IS THE GOOD NEWS ..what is learned can be unlearned and replaced by new behaviors YOU can break that pattern .. YOU CAN CULTIVATE CALM .. I would highly recommend reading all of @brenebrown books but if your new to her work I wpuld start with #thegiftsofimperfection . Let Go of Who You Think You're Suppose to be and Embrace Who You Are. #calm#stillness#oldpatterns#cultivatecalm#anxiety#practice#spirtualgrowth#awareness#brenebrown#harrietlerner#curatorforthesoul
Do you know of Brené Brown? I tried something new and opted to not be glued to my phone but to find some way to pour into myself. As a result, I just spent two hours with her this morning as #thelittles slept.
I have seen her on #tedtalks and various interviews on YT, but this was the first time I opened up a book. Oh. my. word. This book is amazing and I've only just started it. I think she is going to be my new BFF. 😉
I've had this book for a few months and it's just sat there, collecting dust. I couldn't find the current book I'm reading, so I grabbed this one. I think I should have cracked it open as soon as I got it in the mail. 🤦 There's red marks and notes on almost every page I've read so far.
Authenticity is a daily practice of letting go of who we think we’re supposed to be and embracing who we are. B. Brown
Journal prompts for loving ourselves more by taking inventory of the light and dark as a daily practice to remove shame:
I am .....
I appreciate myself for.....
I am proud of myself for.... Even though....
I care about....
As I think about......