Going through a traumatic experience often leaves one feeling isolated and alone. On our #blog this week we are discussing how discussing your experience with other victims can be freeing. Tap the link in our bio to read more. 👆🏽❤️
A disturbing new statistic: “Drug overdose deaths, once rare, are now the leading cause of accidental death in the U.S., surpassing peak annual deaths caused by motor vehicle accidents, guns and HIV infection.”
“The opioid epidemic that has plagued poor and working-class communities across the country is hitting Wall Street’s rich and powerful”
Former Wall street trader, Trey Laird, has been sober for 6 years and is now in a completely different business.
“I must be a mermaid I have no fear of depths and a great fear of shallow living” I saved this quote months ago. It popped up on my phone today and it sparked something in me, then I looked down at my shirt and realized I was wearing a Little Mermaid tank top (LOL) How appropriate right? I think I really might be a mermaid - I can’t stand the thought of being shallow it makes me cringe there is so much more to life than what we see on the surface. I’m not scared to “go there” with people. Digging deep and sharing doesn’t bother me it makes me feel whole and connected with others. I’ve always been this way. I’d take a fin over feet any day. 🌊
Many people don't understand what trauma is or what it can do
Often people assume trauma means Car crashes, extreme violence, sexual abuse, wars, veterans, torture, being locked in a basement, involvement in extremely disturbing tragic and distressing situations, like #grenfell or school shootings and murders
There are many sides of trauma and there is a spectrum. For those that were not directly in the Grenfell tragedy, but were witness or became involved later to help, or even just watching it on t.v , became exposed. They will be experiencing vicarious trauma. Trauma by association
The other side of trauma is the less obvious. So many times I have I talked to people who i can see are traumatised but are totally blind to it. Things like "my childhood was idyllic", "nothing bad happened to me", "my parent's weren't that bad", "yea I got a bit bullied", "yea my partner, my ex, my mum, my dad, my brother, my sister, my friends, my teacher, my family..."
Just because something overtly or obviously traumatic didn't occur does not mean that, something did not occur. Sometimes the worst kind of trauma is the subtle kind. The little digs, the judgements, the criticisms. All shrouded in the pretence of caring "it's only because i worry about you", "i just don't want to see you get hurt", "I've got your best interests at heart", "it's because i love you"
Saying one thing but meaning another
This is the most deadly of trauma inducing situations. It is highly manipulative, it creates confusion and fear. Over long periods of being exposed to this it will destabilise and result in severe mental illness, breakdowns, madness and loss of life
I know what i am talking about. I grew up like this. I have studied this. A very insightful book into this is R.D Laings "Sanity, madness and the family"
None of us chose to be unhappy, none of us chose to have addictions, none of us chose to have eating disorders, none of us chose to have mental illnesses, none of us chose to have chronic illnesses. None of us chose to be frightened and confused and lonely. These are symptoms of the untreated pain and trauma that our minds and bodies want to desperately heal❤
Me too. Suffering is caused by systematic oppression well pretty much always. Healing is therefore collective. The more we speak out (safely and comfortably) the more people realize they are not alone. Look at my blog on Self-Care for The Star. It takes a deeper look at healing...though all my work is about healing, this takes a microscope to it.
Breathe // You are here on purpose.
“For you formed my inward parts; you knitted me together in my mother's womb. I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Wonderful are your works; my soul knows it very well” (Psalms 139:13-14 ESV).
This campaign is very close to our hearts here at ToS and we welcome any platform that raises and welcomes awareness of an issue, even if the solutions aren't immediately clear, and then women might feel more welcome to speak out without disbelief, dismissal or ridicule.
Inevitably the hype will fade away but each time anything like this gets attention, it gives that little bit of extra gravitas to the next wave of awareness. With awareness comes understanding comes a shift in attitude comes a vision for change comes lasting change 💪
In the meantime, while we impatiently wait for change, we proudly support the work of the Survivor's Network in Brighton (ps if you donate to them before 16th November they get more money - link on our FB page - go go go!)
Love to all the good people out there ✌️💗
Do you know what it feels like to have social anxiety?
We've all experienced at one time or another the feeling of being anxious whether before an exam, a job interview, a presentation, an operation or even before some extreme activity like kayaking in fast water or before bungee jumping.
Now imagine for a moment that every time you have to go out, or meet new people or find yourself in any social situation is as if you were going for a job interview for the first time. This is what it feels like to have social anxiety.
Anxiety is an emotion we all experience because it is a human instinct to feel anxious in certain situations but when it gets to the point that it’s affecting your life that’s when it becomes a problem. Help is within reach and Cognitive Behavioural Therapy is an effective solution.
Visit our website or Contact us if you would like to find out how our program can help you by clicking on the link in the profile or typing: http://www.choicesretreats.com
Sending love and light to everyone using #metoo this week. We are so PROUD of you for coming forward and sharing your story. You are not alone----we are all in this together. If any of you #recoverywarriors need to talk don't hesitate to tap the #call button in our bio. 💕💪🏽
BODY WISDOM WEDNESDAY - I've been exploring pendulation between micro and macro movements, using fine motor skills for nervous system regulation particularly with non-dominant sides after gross motor skill practice. Back and forth. Today, I was over the moon to witness a client create her own fine motor skill self regulation tool here. Sometimes we need accessible tools when we are out in public. Sometimes all we can do is pick up a pen. Brilliant work on her part. Her own body wisdom led her here with just a small suggestion from me. The moments when I collaborate with clients are the most life affirming for me. And, client collaboration should be the norm - leading clients to their own body wisdom. #bodywisdom#bodywisdomwednesday#finemotorskills#selfregulation#traumarecovery#traumahealing#ptsdrecovery
The #metoo campaign serves as an important call to action for all yoga teachers. With so many courageous voices speaking out about their sexual assault or harassment, the pervasiveness of trauma in our communities has never been so evident. We know that although many survivors are able to publicly share their experience(s), many more exist but are unable to speak out for a variety of reasons.
As yoga teachers, we must recognize that most people who participate in yoga classes we lead have experienced trauma. Current statistics estimate that more than 50% of the adult U.S. population are survivors of trauma, with other estimates exceeding 85%. We cannot assume that we know the experience of any individual. Instead, we MUST lead classes under the assumption that everyone has a history of trauma and/or abuse. This knowledge and awareness requires us to accept a huge responsibility and step up. We must commit to furthering our training and to strengthening our abilities to serve and hold space for those who can most greatly benefit from the profound practice of yoga.
In the 30-hr Firefly Training, yoga teachers immerse themselves in trauma-informed yoga principles and practice. Teachers learn how to cultivate emotionally, physically, and spiritually safe spaces for trauma survivors in any environment. Firefly-trained teachers leave with the skills needed to initiate trauma-informed yoga in their own communities at studios, social service agencies, corporate settings, and beyond. Join us for an upcoming training --> Willmar, MN | Minneapolis, MN | Boston, MA <-- www.fireflyyoga.org/training #fromdarktolight#metoo#traumainformed#traumainformedyoga#traumarecovery#yoga#yogateacher#ytt#yoganonprofit#meditation#CAM#holistichealth#emotionalhealth#mentalhealth#trauma#awareness#donoharm
"The greatness of a community is most accurately measured by the compassionate actions of its members." ~ Coretta Scott King
The word we're reflecting on with the women in our safe home this month is: "community"
There is great power, healing, and potential for change when people come together in community, whether it's the women in our home or the larger extended community of volunteers, donors, and supporters that make up our Amirah Community.
Your compassion and generosity are what make this Amirah Community so great and have sustained this work! We look forward to celebrating our safe home 2 Year Anniversary with you at the end of the month!
This is me! 😘
I ❤ autumn. How soft the light looks, the smell of falling leaves, wearing soft knits (but not yet rocking the "Michelin Man" look of winter! Lol)...and not to mention the COLOURS! 🍁🍂🍃
Autumn in London is magical 🍂⭐🎃 It gives us the opportunity to slow down and take better care of ourselves. How are you caring for yourself today? .
Emotional freedom techniques (EFT) is a great tool to help us manage our inner states on a day to day basis as well as work on deeper issues. It's both practical and profound and has had an immense effect on my life as well as many, many others. Have a look at the link on my bio to find out more! :) 🎈
When we meet, here is what I bring with me: We are deeply multifaceted. We deserve to be held. We can bring our own light. Anger is Valid. Healing happens in unexpected ways. We are our own mystics. Our bodies are the map. Community is real. Trauma is real. Solidarity & Connection are the foundation of recovery. Loneliness is real. We can rage and savor and love and disregard and admit we were wrong and forge ahead and find grace. We can do all of it. In no particular order. With only the intention of being F I E R C E L Y true to ourselves. 🕯
And so begins the very long journey bck to being mobile... I am now cleared to work up to putting 25% of my weight on the mending ankle. Feels terrible and wonderful all at the same time. Estimated time to full function walking is still a big fat unknown, but I am hoping for walking with moderate pain by Christmas and walking with only minor pain by my birthday in March. These may not be realistic goals, but I am keeping them for now. 🤞🐇💪👟 #trimalleolar#traumarecovery#noslides#yesioweyouamillioninktoberdrawings
There are many ways to attempt to shift power and maintain control over another person. With the advent of the internet things that at one time may have just died on the vine, lying dormant in a disinterested social circle can now be blown up and exploited for literally the world to see, share and comment on within minutes.
While we have all seen, shared and laughed at the viral videos that flash across timelines on a daily basis, what you my have forgotten is that there are HUMAN BEINGS behind these videos. Many of which have not given their consent to the sharing of such material.
What you may not know is that the sharing of such material without consent may constitute a crime.
In particular disclosing material of a sexual nature or those depicting actual sex acts in which the person or persons depicted has not given consent to the distribution of such material. Abusers often use this as a last ditch effort to reclaim control over the abused person. Remember this is not a laughing matter to the person on the receiving end of this. THIS IS A FORM OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE AND IT IS A CRIME! Depending on statute punishable by up to 10 years in prison.
NATIONAL DOMESTIC VIOLENCE HOTLINE 1.800.799.7233 (SAFE)
No one ever tells you the consequences of healing. The systems in your life change and the relationships morph, and you can’t do anything about it except stay on the path of becoming who you want to be. You can never understand the intensity of recovery until you have lived it, and you cannot possibly control how things change in the wake of shifting yourself in such a powerful way. Everything is different, everything is scary. Im faced with myself every day, and sometimes it’s hard to remember that the person looking back at me is the only one who can heal me. #edrecovery#recovery#ocdrecovery#traumarecovery#ptsdrecovery