@Regranned from @womenbychoice - Growth is uncomfortable, so uncomfortable that it can make you want to settle where you are even if you're not satisfied with it. It's so uncomfortable that it can even make you want to sabotage all that you've worked hard for just to move back down to a level where you think you'll be more comfortable. Don't do it. It won't be worth it and you will regret it. Although you feel discomfort, remain focused. It becomes easier to do once you learn to identify what that feeling is when it shows up and intentionally choose to push through it instead of overthinking things and doubting yourself. Although it might feel like you're failing instead of growing, keep going. Pushing through the discomfort will show you what you're truly made of. Pause and pray as needed, but don't give up. You can't reach the next level without getting uncomfortable. Trust the process and move forward in faith. You got this! #Growth#Change#Uncomfortable#NextLevel
To #succeed and #grow , you have to step outside your #comfortzone . Yes, it can be VERY #uncomfortable , think of what it would be like on the other side of the #discomfort .
One of my challenges at the moment is to eventually start running workshops - public speaking. Taking baby steps to keep pushing myself until I get there! It’s both scary and exciting! 🙌
When I wrote about my #metoo experience, I realised it could trigger a couple of people.
What I didn't realise is that it could trigger people I love, and who I thought would hold me in love.
I said uncomfortable things.
Which made them uncomfortable.
And they don't know how to feel that discomfort or learn from it, so they projected it on to me. - - -
We all need to take responsibility for our own triggers and healing.
Because otherwise we tell others it's their fault that we feel a certain way.
Which is not true, no one else can ever make you feel something.
Nelson Mandela was in jail for 27 years and he didn't allow that to make him feel angry at those who imprisoned him.
He knew that to stay angry would be to keep himself imprisoned long after he left the walls they kept him in. - - -
Our freedom comes from being willing to take responsibility for how we feel.
And to do that, we have to stop being afraid of feeling.
If we weren't so afraid of ourselves - the shame, blame, guilt, insecurity, neediness, selfishness and all of the shadowy parts of ourselves we try to keep hidden within - we wouldn't go around trying to pass the blame onto others for how we feel.
In 'The Untethered Soul,' Michael Singer uses a similar example to this: Imagine you have a broken arm that you're not willing to look at and get healed. So whenever someone knocks into it and reminds you it's broken, you blame them for knocking it. You become more and more guarded of this arm that hurts every time anyone gets close, so you push everyone further away. - - -
Do you want to keep blaming others for triggering uncomfortable feelings in you?
Or do you want to heal so it doesn't hurt anymore?
When it hurts, that's your opportunity to feel what you may not have been able to feel before - which is how you heal.
If you can open up in those moments, you can let the pain out.
Otherwise you are going to push it down for another round, and another round, and you guessed it - another round.
You won't stop getting bumped and triggered. *continued in comments*