“I get those fleeting, beautiful moments of inner peace and stillness – and then the other 23 hours and 45 minutes of the day, I’m a human trying to make it through in this world.” ~Ellen DeGeneres
Can you relate to this quote? Life moves very quickly. Days are jam-packed, hours are full, and the work just keeps piling up. Sleep. Wake up. Work. Chores. Kids. Go, go, go. Sleep. Repeat. It seems like that to-do list only includes what has to be accomplished by lunchtime, the end of today, or the end of the week. We often choose to put that little thing called "peace of mind" at the bottom of our lists or not at all. But this actually needs to be at the top of our lists so we can function everywhere else in our lives.
Even though the technological advances we have now like email, texting, smart phones, the Internet, etc., enable us to be more productive, we just all need to choose to refocus the continuous go, go, go mindset and choose to stop, breathe in, and relax. Take some time in the moment to reflect back on the simple things more often.
We all need peace in our lives: peace of mind, peace and quiet, and inner peace. So by making the choice to take a step back from it all can bring tranquility, serenity, and time for yourself. Choose to take a ‘time out’ from life and just be. “The simplification of life is one of the steps to inner peace. A persistent simplification will create an inner and outer well-being that places harmony in one’s life.” ~Peace Pilgrim
I used to spend a lot of time with indecision. Trying to make a decision would often leave me feeling confused, angsty, and worried that I would make the wrong choice. And so I spent a lot of time feeling stuck, with my wheels spinning, going no where.
Sometimes it feels like we have too many choices. Or maybe we feel like we have none. The fact is, we always have choices, and we are making them all the time, even when it feels like we aren't.
What I have come to realize is that life isn't happening TO is- it is happening FOR us. And every day that we sit in indecision, we are actually making a choice to stay confused and stuck. It's when we recognize that we can choose differently- a different perspective, approach, or way of doing things- that we realize that our decisions have an impact. And that impact can be positive.
Your decision to do nothing, because you are worried that it might be the wrong decision, is still a choice. Believe me, I know! I realize now that my YEARS of indecision was actually a choice to protect myself from the discomfort of change. But ever since I decided to STOP overthinking things, to KEEP an open-mind, and to TRUST the process, my life has gotten SO MUCH better. I am healthier in ALL aspects of my life, and I am so grateful for the changes I continue to experience.
I have been getting a lot of messages in my life about decision- at Summit, in my morning readings, and in testimonials from people whose lives have changed because they made a decision. I know it's no coincidence. The MESSAGE is LOUD AND CLEAR, for me and for you:
Make a decision for what we want in our lives... commit to the process.... and we will SUCCEED!🙌🏼❤️🙏🏼#decidecommitsucces#trusttheprocess
By choosing to establish clear boundaries, we define ourselves in relation to our needs, feelings, opinions, and rights. Learning how to establish boundaries is an important goal in our personal growth. This process allows our true selves to emerge.
Healthy boundaries are like fences with gates that keep us safe. Those with healthy boundaries are firm but flexible, give support and accept it, are able to negotiate and compromise, have empathy for others, are able to make mistakes without letting it chip away at their self-esteem, have an greater sense of personal identity, respect diversity, are comfortable with themselves, and make others comfortable around them.
Choosing to put a healthy boundary in place can feel uncomfortable and be challenging - even scary - so here are some ways to help with this:
1) When you recognize the need to set a boundary, do it clearly and use as little words as possible. Do not justify, apologize for, or rationalize it – simply set it calmly, firmly, and respectfully.
2) Remember, you are not responsible for the other person’s reaction to the boundary you are setting. If others get upset with you, that is their choice and their problem - you can’t set a boundary and take care of someone else’s feelings at the same time.
3) You may feel selfish or guilty when you set a boundary, but choose to do it anyway, and tell yourself you have a right to take care of yourself.
4) When you set boundaries, those who tend to be controlling and manipulative might choose to test you. Plan on it, expect it, but be firm - you cannot establish a clear boundary successfully if you send mixed messages by apologizing for setting it.
Learning to set healthy boundaries is a process and takes practice and determination. Do not to let fear or anxiety prevent you from taking care of yourself. Setting healthy boundaries allows your true self to emerge – and what an exciting and powerful journey that can be!
If you recognize you need help with setting boundaries, I can help. Give me a call at 484-587-9922. We can chat, set up a time to get together and see if I'm the right wellness coach for you. ~Lissa #YouHaveChoices#ChooseChoicesCoachLissa
A lot of our stress and frustration we experience day to day comes from choosing to focus on things we cannot control. For instance, we can’t control the weather, traffic, other people, taxes, etc. When we allow our thoughts to get stuck in these “no control” zones, we needlessly increase our stress and frustration.
#ChooseToChallengeYourself to separate the things you can control and those you can’t. If you find yourself focusing on things you can't control, #choosetofocus on something you can control. The external/outside world does not control what you do, think, or feel - you, and only you, have that control.
We become upset when we choose to allow the external/outside world (people and situations) to control or influence us. #YouHaveChoices to decide the most effective plan of action and change it.
If this speaks to you and you want to make changes, I want to help you. Through #mentalhealthcoaching & #wellnesscoaching you will be able to learn how to make more #effectivechoices and take charge of your life.
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Because certain thoughts or situations can bring up uncomfortable feelings, such as memories of a traumatic event or feelings of being on edge and anxious, one way of coping with these symptoms is by increasing your awareness of these triggers. You can choose to prevent or lessen the impact of certain symptoms by identifying what specific types of thoughts, feelings, and situations trigger them, and then choose to take steps to limit the occurrence or impact of those triggers.
Are you feeling foolish today?
Have you repeated an action which tripped you up last time you did it?
Has someone who purports to love you and/or wants to be part of your life, said/done something that has left you feeling worthless again?
When we do the same things and expect different results..??..
Then we are foolish
We are being unfair too.
To the other person(s)
How many times can you invite your ego to run the show?
Points to note:
No one has the ability to make us do, feel anything..
We have to agree to that.
If you give your permission to anyone to disregard you in such a way.
Then you send a message:
'I fear you'
'I don't respect myself so it's okay that you don't too'
'I raise my voice, because I'm refusing to find a solution to our situation and shouting enables me to feel in charge'
'You hurt my feelings so I'm entitled to hurt yours'
'You let me down, I'm hurting so I should hurt you back, it's only right'
'So what, if I didn't tell you why I'm angry, I've carried it this long, you should have guessed if you care'
We can find endless excuses for our poor behaviour and treatment of others, but if we expect different results from tried and tested failings.
Then disappointment is our true friend.
Then all I can suggest?
It's always your choice in how you choose to deal with your dis-ease, but don't decry 'victim'
Victims choices are denied by the perp
You have a choice.
This share is a message of compassion for All experiencing dis-ease in relationships.
NB: I do not disregard anyone who has endured unnecessary trauma and treatment by those who Deliver pain and mental abuse to minors or spousal partners/ family members or anyone just because they can.
I find it difficult to remember this but I always keep trying to. It definitely applies to some people and their need for conflict can bring you down. Don't let it. Keep trying to live your life in hopes they come around.
People will try to persuade you into doing things that are not in your best interest. It's okay to say NO, at work and in your personal life. Tune in to your internal compass. It will not lead you astray...