If you think that getting what you want will make you happy then you will never be happy.
Happiness that is dependant on your circumstances is nothing more than the slavery of the mind to the senses.
This is why religion and philosophy teaches us to be free from desire. Not because you shouldn’t want things or enjoy things, but because you shouldn’t be dependant on them.
Let go of desire and the need to have everything as you want it to be.
Find out for yourself that the happiness you are seeking has been there all along.
That madness in your mind, that you want no one else to see.
The dark shadows, irrational thoughts, confusion and chaos.
It is the same in all of us.
This is the nature of the mind - light, dark and everything in between.
When we can accept the madness - the dualistic and conflicting nature of the mind, and view the mind with compassion and non-judgement, instead of being terrified of by it, we can find peace; our inner demons no longer have the power to torment and torture us.
The mind goes from a raging sea of anger, frustration, pain and resistance to an ocean of calm, peace, clarity, wisdom and self-knowledge.
We build deities to worship and devils to fear to try and externalise the light and shadow that is within us. It feels safer for our light and our darkness to be ‘out there’ instead of ‘in here’. It is only when we take responsibility for, and ownership of, the complexities, contrasts and chaos of our inner world, and view this madness with compassion and non-judgement, that we can master the mind and find freedom from suffering.
Our experience is a mental construct. It has no existence outside of the mind.
Everything we think, feel, see, hear and believe that we know, is nothing more than an internal hallucination. This includes our sense of self. It is all a mirage of the mind. None of it is really happening. It is all the swirl of our imagination.
Knowing this is liberation.
The symbol of Goddess gives us permission. She teaches us to embrace the holiness of every natural, ordinary, sensual dying moment. Patriarchy may try to negate body & flee earth with its constant heartbeat of death, but Goddess forces us back to embrace them, to take our human life in our arms & clasp it for the divine life it is - the nice, sanitary, harmonious moments as well as the painful, dark, splintered ones.
Sue Monk Kidd
Wise people realize that all happiness and suffering depend upon the mind, and so they seek happiness from the mind itself. They do not rely on external sources, as they understand that the causes of happiness are complete within themselves. If we realize this, then whether we face problems caused by other beings or material things, they won't be able to hurt us much at all.
Dodrupchen Jigme Tenpe Nyima
Ego is a structure that is erected by a neurotic individual who is a member of a neurotic culture against the facts of the matter. And culture, which we put on like an overcoat, is the collectivized consensus about what sort of neurotic behaviors are acceptable.