an online Instagram web viewer
  • elikamft
    Elika MFT, Online Therapist
    @elikamft

Images by elikamft

As a woman in business, it often a fine line between “flirty” and “friendly”. .
When does being one of the guys, start looking like harassment?
.
When is it OK to draw the line?
.
How do you draw the line without making things worst?
.
Harassment is NOT ok. It’s never welcomed and it’s not something to be ashamed of. Yet, women often are. .
Men can be victims as well. Often invisible because “no one will believe” them. Working with men, I appreciate how difficult it is for them to seek help and admit when they are not in control.
As a woman in business, it often a fine line between “flirty” and “friendly”. . When does being one of the guys, start looking like harassment? . When is it OK to draw the line? . How do you draw the line without making things worst? . Harassment is NOT ok. It’s never welcomed and it’s not something to be ashamed of. Yet, women often are. . Men can be victims as well. Often invisible because “no one will believe” them. Working with men, I appreciate how difficult it is for them to seek help and admit when they are not in control.
So excited to launch my new website!
.💕
It’s been a labor of love.
.💕
I’m a bit of a perfectionist but had to focus on completion.
.💕
I assume my website will grown and change as I do and the needs of my clients do.
.💕
Check it out and let me know what you think!
.👇
www.elikamft.com
So excited to launch my new website! .💕 It’s been a labor of love. .💕 I’m a bit of a perfectionist but had to focus on completion. .💕 I assume my website will grown and change as I do and the needs of my clients do. .💕 Check it out and let me know what you think! .👇 www.elikamft.com
Yesterday someone pissed me off! Big time!
.
I was fuming over some stupid comments made by a mean person. Well, I wasn’t as much mad as I was hurt. .
I decided to breathe and shake it off. Yes, it was freaking difficult.
.
Today, I got a fun surprise. Perhaps my reward for not letting someone’s ignorance ruin my day.
.
LIKE IF YOU ARE READY TO STOP LETTING PEOPLE RUIN YOUR DAY!
Yesterday someone pissed me off! Big time! . I was fuming over some stupid comments made by a mean person. Well, I wasn’t as much mad as I was hurt. . I decided to breathe and shake it off. Yes, it was freaking difficult. . Today, I got a fun surprise. Perhaps my reward for not letting someone’s ignorance ruin my day. . LIKE IF YOU ARE READY TO STOP LETTING PEOPLE RUIN YOUR DAY!
It’s Friday the 13th! Who is feeling lucky?
.🍀
So many people hold on to beliefs that are inaccurate and just get in the way.
.🍀
So here is a little fun reminder that we create our own destiny.
.🍀
Our thoughts, our beliefs, and the things we say to ourselves-those are the factors that create our luck, our success, and our outcomes. So create your own good luck and good fortune by focusing on helpful thoughts and actions that are inline with your goals.
It’s Friday the 13th! Who is feeling lucky? .🍀 So many people hold on to beliefs that are inaccurate and just get in the way. .🍀 So here is a little fun reminder that we create our own destiny. .🍀 Our thoughts, our beliefs, and the things we say to ourselves-those are the factors that create our luck, our success, and our outcomes. So create your own good luck and good fortune by focusing on helpful thoughts and actions that are inline with your goals.
This picture still makes me laugh every time.
.😁
Frustrated with dating, annoyed by guys who couldn’t make up their minds, and wondering if the right person will ever show up.
.🤞
I used to be SO frustrated with dating. Each bad date left me discouraged but hey at least it was a good story to share with friends.
.😅
Relationships that didn’t work out, wondering if I could have done anything differently. Wondering if the pain will ever go away.
.🙏
I used to think dating was just frustrating for women but as I work with my male clients I realize that they struggle too.
.🤔
Sometimes relationships don’t work out. It doesn’t mean you’re broken. You’re just creating room for the right person.
This picture still makes me laugh every time. .😁 Frustrated with dating, annoyed by guys who couldn’t make up their minds, and wondering if the right person will ever show up. .🤞 I used to be SO frustrated with dating. Each bad date left me discouraged but hey at least it was a good story to share with friends. .😅 Relationships that didn’t work out, wondering if I could have done anything differently. Wondering if the pain will ever go away. .🙏 I used to think dating was just frustrating for women but as I work with my male clients I realize that they struggle too. .🤔 Sometimes relationships don’t work out. It doesn’t mean you’re broken. You’re just creating room for the right person.
It’s international day of the girl today. ❤️.
I was born in a country that didn’t value women. Having a son was considered a bigger blessing.
.❤️
Luckily my father didn’t agree and didn’t limit my life or my decisions to what’s “appropriate for little girls”.
.❤️
I look around now, at myself, my sister, my girlfriends, all accomplished. .❤️
So many of the women I see today are more accomplished or more educated than their male counterparts.
.❤️
Our success is based on our determination not our gender.
.❤️
So when you see a little girl, remember she’s a future leader. Treat her with respect. .❤️
Here is to celebrating all the strong little girls that have grown to be successful women.
It’s international day of the girl today. ❤️. I was born in a country that didn’t value women. Having a son was considered a bigger blessing. .❤️ Luckily my father didn’t agree and didn’t limit my life or my decisions to what’s “appropriate for little girls”. .❤️ I look around now, at myself, my sister, my girlfriends, all accomplished. .❤️ So many of the women I see today are more accomplished or more educated than their male counterparts. .❤️ Our success is based on our determination not our gender. .❤️ So when you see a little girl, remember she’s a future leader. Treat her with respect. .❤️ Here is to celebrating all the strong little girls that have grown to be successful women.
I love that post vacation glow, don’t you?
.
So you know how on vacation you let things slide? Like your diet or exercise routine?
.
It’s really important to take responsibility to get back into a routine ASAP.
.
For me, it was my morning Pilates class. I really wanted to snooze but I had to force myself to get out of bed and be accountable.
.
Feeling accomplished and it’s only lunch time. .
What’s something you did today that you’re proud of?
I love that post vacation glow, don’t you? . So you know how on vacation you let things slide? Like your diet or exercise routine? . It’s really important to take responsibility to get back into a routine ASAP. . For me, it was my morning Pilates class. I really wanted to snooze but I had to force myself to get out of bed and be accountable. . Feeling accomplished and it’s only lunch time. . What’s something you did today that you’re proud of?
Final day of vacation, it’s bitter sweet.
.
Today I got to ride an ATV in the sand dooms.
.
Omg it was so scary to get started! Remembering how to brake, how to turn, and making sure I don’t flip over!
.
In the end, it was an amazing rush. I’m so glad that I got to have this experience.
.
We all have fears that can hold us back. Make us scared to even try, but sometimes when you face your fears, something amazing awaits!
.
What is a little fear you can overcome?
Final day of vacation, it’s bitter sweet. . Today I got to ride an ATV in the sand dooms. . Omg it was so scary to get started! Remembering how to brake, how to turn, and making sure I don’t flip over! . In the end, it was an amazing rush. I’m so glad that I got to have this experience. . We all have fears that can hold us back. Make us scared to even try, but sometimes when you face your fears, something amazing awaits! . What is a little fear you can overcome?
Today I watched baby turtles find their way into the ocean.
.
Wow! What an amazing experience!
.🐢
Somehow they all find their way into the sea.
.🐢
Some take longer. Some get there more quickly. They all eventually get there though.
.🐢
It’s an important lesson to remember, in a world that’s constantly striving to be #1, sometimes we have to remember to pay attention to the journey as well.
.
What can you learn from a turtle?
🐢🐢🐢🐢🐢🐢🐢🐢🐢🐢
Today I watched baby turtles find their way into the ocean. . Wow! What an amazing experience! .🐢 Somehow they all find their way into the sea. .🐢 Some take longer. Some get there more quickly. They all eventually get there though. .🐢 It’s an important lesson to remember, in a world that’s constantly striving to be #1 , sometimes we have to remember to pay attention to the journey as well. . What can you learn from a turtle? 🐢🐢🐢🐢🐢🐢🐢🐢🐢🐢
Have you ever noticed that you lose track of time when you are having fun?
.
Here is to having a fun and relaxing weekend!
Have you ever noticed that you lose track of time when you are having fun? . Here is to having a fun and relaxing weekend!
There is something so magical about watching the sun set in the evening.
.
It’s even more amazing watching it while in the water.
.
Oh and reason #67 why I love ❤️ doing online therapy, my clients can still benefit from email therapy while I’m away.
.
When is the last time you sat and watched the sunset?
There is something so magical about watching the sun set in the evening. . It’s even more amazing watching it while in the water. . Oh and reason #67  why I love ❤️ doing online therapy, my clients can still benefit from email therapy while I’m away. . When is the last time you sat and watched the sunset?
I don’t think I’m in Kansas anymore!
.
The beach.
.
The sand.
.
The sun.
.
Perfect way to practice self-care!
I don’t think I’m in Kansas anymore! . The beach. . The sand. . The sun. . Perfect way to practice self-care!
Can anyone else use a hug?
.
Man it’s been a trying few days.
.
Two funerals last week and now the shooting in Vegas. I’m finding myself a lot more anxious and emotional these days.
.
Apparently I’m not alone either, my clients have also felt more “on edge” about leaving the house or for “no reason”.
.
From hurricanes and earthquakes to mass shootings, it’s scary out there!
.
I’m getting ready to go on a trip and for the first time since 9-11, I’m nervous.
.
I’m grateful that more people haven’t been injured or killed. I’m heartbroken for the families who have lost their loved ones. .
Sending lots of hugs and prayers
Can anyone else use a hug? . Man it’s been a trying few days. . Two funerals last week and now the shooting in Vegas. I’m finding myself a lot more anxious and emotional these days. . Apparently I’m not alone either, my clients have also felt more “on edge” about leaving the house or for “no reason”. . From hurricanes and earthquakes to mass shootings, it’s scary out there! . I’m getting ready to go on a trip and for the first time since 9-11, I’m nervous. . I’m grateful that more people haven’t been injured or killed. I’m heartbroken for the families who have lost their loved ones. . Sending lots of hugs and prayers
Sending out prayers for those killed and injured in Las Vegas.
.😓
Sending thoughts and prayers to the families of all the victims.
.😓
I can’t begin to imagine how heartbreaking and scary it must be.
.😓
My heart is saddened by the loss of innocent lives.
.😓
May they Rest In Peace and they live on in the memories of their loved ones.
.
🙏 Amen
Sending out prayers for those killed and injured in Las Vegas. .😓 Sending thoughts and prayers to the families of all the victims. .😓 I can’t begin to imagine how heartbreaking and scary it must be. .😓 My heart is saddened by the loss of innocent lives. .😓 May they Rest In Peace and they live on in the memories of their loved ones. . 🙏 Amen
Who missed me?
.
I just unplugged from phone and internet for 24-hours.
.
Good to know that the world didn’t end.
.
It’s amazing what you can accomplish when you unplug for a while and focus on things that really matter. .
For me, that focus was on my family and my emotional and spiritual health.
.
What would you focus on if you weren’t distracted by your phone, tv or social media alerts?
Who missed me? . I just unplugged from phone and internet for 24-hours. . Good to know that the world didn’t end. . It’s amazing what you can accomplish when you unplug for a while and focus on things that really matter. . For me, that focus was on my family and my emotional and spiritual health. . What would you focus on if you weren’t distracted by your phone, tv or social media alerts?
I’ve spent some time thinking about forgiveness lately. Its easier to forgive some and harder to forgive others. .
I think part of it depends on the relationship to begin with. The other part depends on the apology.
.
Sometimes people say “sorry” but you know that it’s a half-ass apology. You feel bad saying apology not accepted, but the apology doesn’t actually mean anything to you.
.
The truth is no one ever taught so HOW to apologize. .
Imagine saying “sorry I stole from you, and I’ll probably do it again”. It’s funny, but that’s really how most apologies are. Just words.
.
So here are a few guidelines for how to ask for forgiveness .
1) Apologize sincerely to the person you have wronged.
.
2) Don’t make excuses or try to defend your behavior. It may not have been intentional but it still hurt.
.
3) Demonstrate empathy (that you get how you actions hurt the other person).
.
4) Try to make things right. Make it up to them, find a way (ask them how).
.
5) Show them you’ve changed (important step, because otherwise you’re not really sorry). Talk is cheap, especially when someone is still upset with you.
.
6) Ask for forgiveness again after you made things right.
.
FYI my relationships have greatly improved since I started to apologize in this way.
.
Ready to try it yourself?
I’ve spent some time thinking about forgiveness lately. Its easier to forgive some and harder to forgive others. . I think part of it depends on the relationship to begin with. The other part depends on the apology. . Sometimes people say “sorry” but you know that it’s a half-ass apology. You feel bad saying apology not accepted, but the apology doesn’t actually mean anything to you. . The truth is no one ever taught so HOW to apologize. . Imagine saying “sorry I stole from you, and I’ll probably do it again”. It’s funny, but that’s really how most apologies are. Just words. . So here are a few guidelines for how to ask for forgiveness . 1) Apologize sincerely to the person you have wronged. . 2) Don’t make excuses or try to defend your behavior. It may not have been intentional but it still hurt. . 3) Demonstrate empathy (that you get how you actions hurt the other person). . 4) Try to make things right. Make it up to them, find a way (ask them how). . 5) Show them you’ve changed (important step, because otherwise you’re not really sorry). Talk is cheap, especially when someone is still upset with you. . 6) Ask for forgiveness again after you made things right. . FYI my relationships have greatly improved since I started to apologize in this way. . Ready to try it yourself?
It’s a gorgeous day outside and I want to play!
.
Of course, instead of playing I get to play the role of a “responsible adult”, but still.
.
As you can imagine when you work in customer service, you can’t please everyone all the time. Heck, some people you can’t never please!
.
Don’t let that ruin your day though. It’s not about you-some people are just never pleased. It’s a process that they go through. .
No one can ruin your day without your permission-so don’t give it to them!!!
.
Ok I’m getting off my soapbox, ready to have a great day?
It’s a gorgeous day outside and I want to play! . Of course, instead of playing I get to play the role of a “responsible adult”, but still. . As you can imagine when you work in customer service, you can’t please everyone all the time. Heck, some people you can’t never please! . Don’t let that ruin your day though. It’s not about you-some people are just never pleased. It’s a process that they go through. . No one can ruin your day without your permission-so don’t give it to them!!! . Ok I’m getting off my soapbox, ready to have a great day?
Saying goodbye never gets easier. Losing someone you love, hurts. Sometimes you wonder if you have any more tears left.
.😓
Maybe you lost a loved one to a terrible disease like cancer.
.😓
Maybe someone you love got killed in an accident.
.😓
Maybe they were in the wrong place at the wrong time.
.😓
Maybe they are a hero dying to preserve our freedom.
.😓
When is the last time you talked? Did you get to say goodbye?
.😓
Can you rest easier knowing that they knew how you felt? Or do you feel shame and guilt for those hurtful last words?
.😓
Our time is precious. So precious. Make your moments count.
.✨
👉🏻Tag someone you love or someone who is grieving and could use some comfort.
Saying goodbye never gets easier. Losing someone you love, hurts. Sometimes you wonder if you have any more tears left. .😓 Maybe you lost a loved one to a terrible disease like cancer. .😓 Maybe someone you love got killed in an accident. .😓 Maybe they were in the wrong place at the wrong time. .😓 Maybe they are a hero dying to preserve our freedom. .😓 When is the last time you talked? Did you get to say goodbye? .😓 Can you rest easier knowing that they knew how you felt? Or do you feel shame and guilt for those hurtful last words? .😓 Our time is precious. So precious. Make your moments count. .✨ 👉🏻Tag someone you love or someone who is grieving and could use some comfort.