Hola beautiful humans ✨
Thought I’d fill you in on some personal current struggles with self love, acceptance and patience.
Our brain has this tendency to make us believe we have tried harder than what we actually have when the process gets strenuous and we get tired (you can always do better). Success is in the detail, and the little slips / ‘cheats’ / rests / breaks / rewards (whatever the excuse to pause the process) has a consequence of slowing you down... Persistence is a skill, it really is about ignoring this self pity talk when we just feel like we should already have what we’re seeking and working towards. Being honest with yourself and taking accountability for your past actions in this mindset is the key to escape it! Did you really try everything you could and your absolute hardest?
Breaks are important, and being in tune with when you are burning out is even more important.
The trick I’ve learnt is to never make your brain feel like you’re sacrificing... you have to make the process sustainable, enjoyable and plan it in a way where you allow the right time to evaluate progress. Patience and enjoying the process in creating a new habit is key to making it a part of your life style. And in order to accept your current situation, focus on the fact it has all brought you to a situation of making a change, and a new understanding and learning of the consequences of all your actions leading up until now. It’s all a positive thing. Be proud of yourself and reflect on how every piece of your life has lead you to who you are today ✨❤️
My life motto - don't think, just do (cheers dad) 😘
I just thought it was really important I discuss to you how much I am learning too.
I am so so SO appreciative of all of your support and positivity, however I also don't want you to get the wrong idea about self-growth and goal setting. Everyone is someone else's goal body, life, career, relationship... everything. So when you find yourself frustrated (like me A LOT), know that you have something that others idolise, so focus on that.
When you make the decision to commit to yourself, your happiness, you soon discover there is no finish line to personal growth.
You will get to your goal, and create a bigger one- because the only thing that has changed are your standards; it has sky rocketed- you'll gain momentum and achieve bigger & better... HOWEVER you'll still be learning, you'll still make mistakes and you'll never be completely evolved or perfect... you may actually find yourself re-learning at times. Generally the things I teach. I am applying to myself to a situation I am struggling with and think you can relate to, and because I have found something that helps, I share. Not because I am an expert, but because I understand the struggle and pain and don't want you to have to go through it all if I've done the hard work for you and found a solution that worked.
So I urge to to start small, the motivation comes from making the DECISION to start, then actually following through. You have 5 seconds from deciding, to act on a thought before your subconscious mind begins to make excuses to stop you. Your brain is made specifically to protect you, and protection is comfort (hint: no change big or small is comfortable to our mind)
So as simple as this quote is, I want to emphasise its power. The worst thing you can do is put energy into thinking about doing things or what you haven't done... it doesn't help you at all. Consistency is key, but the real strength behind that is learning how to use your brain in a way you ignore the excuses and learn to distinguish if your egos talking or you. Hint: intuition is outcome oriented, ego is process/small-picture actions focused ❤️
Happiest of birthdays to my number one soul sister. Still pinch myself how lucky I am to have accidentally been paired together in Spanish class. You have definitely made my Barcelona experience one of a life time ❤️
Love you @breezyie & your Australian legs 😘